Going out with a collective bang?

slimboyfat

I've been thinking recently that I should just disassociate from the JWs and be done with it. I've been straggling along for over ten years now without believing it so it's probably about time I made a clean break and moved on.

But I really detest the fact that the announcement at the Kingdom Hall no longer makes any distinction between those who are disfellowshipped and those who disassociate themselves. What a sleekit way for the organization to disguise the fact that many people choose to leave of their own accord rather than being thrown out for supposed wrongdoing. If I do disassociate I want to throw a spanner in that by making it clear that I choose to leave of my own free will. And I've been thinking that the best way to do that might be to announce my own disassociation during a comment at the meeting.

Is anyone else at a stage where they feel they want to disassociate? Maybe if a few of us feel the same we could organise to do it at the same meeting. If Witnesses talk to each other word might get around about the multiple public disassociations and it might cause a few to wonder what provokes people to want to leave the organization.

snare&racket

Check out an old thread by someone called little toe, its titled "going out with a bang."

It can't be beaten.

ssn587

announ ce it in a comment, that way everyone there will know why you are departing, and there can't be any misconceptions about it. although some will still gossip and say things. And announcing yourself in a comment will rob the elder body of saying that you are not one of the jdubs any more and leave it to peoples imagination as to why and of course they will think you did something wrong and had to be dismissed. It will never occur to any of them that you can no longer stomach the lies and decption and the wanting of worship for the GB.

leavingwt

slim: As you may know, people like to gossip. The announcement may be the same, but make no mistake: people will quickly spread the word that you're an apostate. My letter went (via email) to dozens of publishers, so there was never any question of why I was no longer a JW. When the announcement was made, it was old news, as everyone had already heard.

leavingwt

"I've been thinking recently that I should just disassociate from the JWs and be done with it. I've been straggling along for over ten years now without believing it so it's probably about time I made a clean break and moved on."

If you don't want to write a letter, I think you can achieve your goals. Your clean break could simply be a decision to never enter a Kingdom Hall and to stop associating with JWs. The visits/phonecalls/emails will most definitely stop, as you begin shying away from the JWs.

botchtowersociety

As leavingWT suggested, you could coopt the congregational announcement and make things very clear. If you really want to make things clear and still perform some duties from the platform (even if just Theocratic Ministry School), you could also go the LittleToe route.

botchtowersociety

If you don't want to write a letter, I think you can achieve your goals. Your clean break could simply be a decision to never enter a Kingdom Hall and to stop associating with JWs. The visits/phonecalls/emails will most definitely stop, as you begin shying away from the JWs.

Definitely was what happened in my case, and, as far as I know, no disassociation/disfellowshipping announcement has been made in my case. I simply faded away and moved to a different part of town. When elders called in the early months, I just let voicemail handle it.

I Want to Believe

I've been dreaming of using a 5-minute TMS talk to lay out an airtight argument and only at the very end does it all come together against the Society. After which I would announce myself out, leave my Bible on stage and walk out. That LittleToe actually did so in a public talk is amazing.

cantleave

Whatever method you choose I wish you the best of luck. Making a clean break was the best thing nugget and I ever did.

Honesty

"And I've been thinking that the best way to do that might be to announce my own disassociation during a comment at the meeting."

It will cut down on any malicious JW gossip that you committed fornication or used drugs, etc.

Going out with a collective bang?

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