by and far most JW's are sincere. They are taught and conditioned to do what they do. I dont' give them a free pass, but they don't make up this stuff, they just accept it way too easily and believe it.
I totally agree with you! My main beef is with the Org. itself, and not the JW's. I just consider them misguided as I once was. The only time I would hold it against JW's personally is if they intentionally hurt another, are Child abusers, or if they condone, hide, or fail to mention it to the authorities.
While it sucks that they shun us, I try to realize that they are doing what they think they are supposed to, and I can't throw stones because I used to shun people too while I was in. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is until the time comes that they hopefully decide to open their eyes and see the truth for what it really is.