tomorrow is another day. I'm glad you shared your feelings today. My heart goes out to you.
I'm feeling rather sad myself at the moment...sometimes it's just good to share that with someone.
I'm feeling rather lonely and down today.
by PaintedToeNail 17 Replies latest jw friends
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PaintedToeNail
finally awake-I love cupcakes! White ones with vanilla frosting. I'll put the coffee on!
Lozhasleft-Sorry I didn't comment more on your post, I have people lurking around me who would be really upset to know I'm on this site, so caution is the order of the day. I do have Hassans book, hidden, so hubby won't find it. He is a good man, but he seems to have revved up his religious convictions as mine have totally disappeared, this is annoying, because he was rather complacent for many years. It is only after I've come to my senses that he has become a zealot! He is 3rd gen. and has family all over who are indoctrinated.
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mostlydead
My husband is still very much in too, in fact it seems like he's doing more now than he ever has in our 30+ year marraige. This has been bothering me a lot more lately, and I'm trying to figure out why. No flashes of insight yet about that, but in the meantime, I try to keep from dwelling on it. I've allowed myself to explore some hobbies/interests that I never did while "waiting for the new system" and use the time he's gone to meetings and service to enrich my life in other ways. We don't have a whole lot in common anymore, but we still do share a similar sense of humor which is a big thing on a day to day basis. We also have a long history and kids together. I've been out about 6 years now, and I have to say that some things are easier now, and I'm glad I didn't throw in the towel on our relationship like I felt doing a while back. There's a lot of loss and change when one mate leaves this religion. Time helps you assess what's left and what can be improved.
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
"I'm feeling outmoded, old and lonely."
Yeah, I feel that way sometimes, thinking that my best opportunities have already passed me by. But remember, that's just a "feeling" not a fact. If you need professional counseling, you won't get it from a JW! I've found it very helpful. My life isn't exactly what I want it to be, but it's a lot better to have my mind free of the WT shackles.
Hang in there, baby!
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Ding
Does your husband know the issues that have led you no longer to trust the organization?
Have you hashed it all out with him or doesn't he want to know?
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Hang in there is a song to motivate you.
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mind blown
Sorry to hear you're down...I'm sending ya a love bomb.... There's nothing worse then being in a relationship with someone and still feel alone.
Spring cleaning? I say go out and get a real make over, hair, make up, clothes! Even if you're on a buget it can be done. Change things up by doing nice things for yourself. Join a gym or join an easy excersise class, or take classes. Make friends with the women in the classes. And if your hubby isn't a sexual prude....change things up there too....he's a man, ....(very simple)......eat, sex, eye candy.....go for it... Don't get too flirty unless he likes it, or he'll think you've been dancing with the devil
Well, Ok, and spring cleaning. I know that always helps out too.
There's not too much you can do about the other stuff, except wait for the WTS to do another new light and maybe he'll see the light.....
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PaintedToeNail
mostlydead-Thank you, you definitely know what it is like to be in this strange position. I do love him, but it is really difficult, it is as if I've moved on mentally, and he hasn't, he is still buying everything hook, line and sinker.
Billy-The picture is great! I love cats, too, so it is perfect! It is better to be out and awake, than in and in mental anguish, trying to convince oneself that any of what is said makes sense...but it does disturb the status quo at home!
Ding-We have hashed it out repeatedly. He has become very insecure and needy, which is driving me nuts too! He wants to believe he is going to live forever.
Band-I sent you several twp pm's, you will probably think I'm insane!
still thinking-Here's to two semi-depressed souls (she raises her glass in a worldly toast), thanks for the hugs!
Scott77-No, it isn't the long arm of the Watchtower, it is just my hubby, being faithful to a concept.
mind blown-I've been trying to do the makeover thing, it has helped a lot. Our sex life is great, I've corrupted him nicely, it is the lack of companionship that is difficult. Making friends as an 'analytical thinker' who tends to be a loner is very difficult, it is compounded by a lifetime of a lack of social contacts with the real world due to being raised as a JW. lol.
d-I'm going to check out the song now.
Thanks to all! Feeling better, thanks to ALL of you!!
