I used to be quite judgemental, and found it was the hardest part of being a JW to let go of. Perhaps because my parents are so quick to judge others on principle, as well as being in the religion. To see ourselves through others' eyes, is a real learning experience, and for me, the learning never stops.
There are no mean gurls here, and if I helped you to see that 'outspoken' or 'disagreeing' isn't 'mean', well, that's a good thing. For me, the lesson was all about intent. Did that person intend to hurt me? Usually not; most likely they were just stating how they felt, and never gave a thought to how I might react. Once I learned that lesson,,, well, life got a lot easier. That's what it means to 'not take things personally'.
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