Reminds me of when I was newly married (to a non-JW psychopath who I mistakenly thought was converting before we got married - but that's another story). I wasn't D/F nor D/A'd at that stage, and I'd moved from one side of Melbourne (from my beautiful JW friends - well, some of them were) to the other side where I knew no-one. Life had quickly hit the skids and I was out of control, way in over my head with this guy. I'd also stopped going to the meetings and door-to-door, which was playing heavily on my conscience.
So one day I rang an older 'sister' who I'd gotten along with really well, and we used to go out witnessing a lot together. AND she was one of the supposed 144,000/remnant. I was desperate for someone to help me get my head straight, and I thought she'd be so spiritual and helpful. She asked me if I'd been to the meetings at the Carlton congo. When I said no, she balled me out about being selfish, having no consideration for my (JW) family, no love for Jehovah, and to just get back to the meetings, pray, and go out witnessing again.
I ended up calling an exJW/DF girlfriend I'd known well when we were both JWs. Turned out she was in a very similar situation to me! And even though she was barely able to do anything to support/help me, still, she was worth her weight in gold. We had each other to comiserate with.
That was 33 years ago. Since then I've had exJWs tell me how they've felt used by JWs. There could be some essence to what you said about the up-coming memorial, and it's their way of trying to get a bit closer to you to try get you back to meetings/association. Essentially the JW religion is a very selfish one. A wise person once told me: selfishness isn't doing what you want - selfishness is demanding others to do as you want.
Love the red face/so over that stinking cult
