Update on my son...

by diana netherton 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • diana netherton
    diana netherton

    First of all, thank you everyone for your advice. Some of it was a bit harsh,

    but it made me scrutinize myself a bit more..but here is the outcome....and I

    am so proud of him.

    My mother came over last night and talked to my son. I stayed in the background and

    listened. She said basically everything you lot were saying. He had tears in his eyes he

    was so worried about letting his boss down. He stated he really wanted to go. Then all of

    a sudden it clicked. He looked at me and said, "what time should I go in tomorrow to tell

    him?" And that was it. He made the decision on his own and I stayed back and let him.

    I followed him to the petrol station and got gas and coffee while he went to talk to his

    boss in the back. I told him to just say that he made up his mind, he was going, and that

    since he was due to work today in an hour, he would be happy to stay and work but that

    on Sunday he was leaving for Dallas. I don't know exactly how it happened, but he came

    out looking relieved and said he was working and it was done. I got my petrol and left.

    I didn't even see his boss, but when I do next time, I plan on apologising for my actions,

    but I think I will mention how my son struggled over the decision to the point of tears.

    There are not that many 20-year-olds that would be that conscientious.

    So he's off to Dallas. He will be working near the stadium, I think. He will be working with

    steam trains, taking them apart and moving them to another location, and this is right where

    he needs to be since the first word out of his mouth wasn't Mummy...it was choo choo, and since

    then he's been obsessed with trains.

    Thank you everyone for your input..even those of you who were a bit harsh on me.

    Bit I think I probably had it coming!

  • iCeltic
    iCeltic

    Great news

  • Think About It
    Think About It

    Awesome. Your young man will be getting hands on experience operating and working on trains & machinery. Good luck to him.

    Think About It

  • designs
    designs

    wish him the best.

  • nugget
    nugget

    Your son sounds lovely how many other people would have to think so hard about letting their boss down in such a low paid job? It sounds like he will be ok. As mums it is hard to let go sometimes we worry so much about them and that they are happy and settled. Sometimes we make mistakes but so long as they were made in love then I am sure they are forgivable.

    Good luck to your son in his fabulous new job.

  • briffoux
    briffoux

    Too cool!

    Sounds like your son will be moving the Fair Park train museum stock to the new museum in the town where I live. This will involve the moving of a "Big Boy" steam locomotive, one of the biggest locomotives ever built. A once in a lifetime event!

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    You are a great Mom ,we learn right along with our kids sometimes .

    So happy for your son ! What a great experience for him ,and in no time he will be so happy he made the right decision . Just think how this will help him the next time he needs to make a big decision ,it is all building blocks isn't it ? He just made a huge step into manhood .

    Mom's rock !

    I have three son's and they still call to discuss major life choices with me . I am more of a sounding board than anything just trying to support what ever they are attempting to do . The hardest time of my parental life was hearing one of my sons struggling from thousands of miles away ....worried and scared he had made a major move mistake ....all I could do is remind him, that is what life is about ,taking chances and going for it ! Thankfully he gave his choice time and it has worked out just fine .

  • Phizzy
    Phizzy

    Well done to you both !

    It could well work out that it is a milestone for him, that he matures a little, and that perhaps he decides on a course in life and starts to work towards it.

    We have one of our kids who is very decisive, a mover and a shaker, knows what he is doing and where he is going, won't be bullied or persuaded from his way. He is lovely with it.

    The other son we say "needs a rocket up his arse", he is content to stay in a low paid job, and will only do what he is forced to in life, he prefers others to decide for him, and do everything for him if possible.He is alovely guy too, but needs encouragement, as your son does, to move onward and upward.

    We all want our kids to be both safe and happy, all we can do is encourage each other to make that happen.

  • Razziel
    Razziel

    Congratulations!

  • Bella15
    Bella15

    Awesome. That's the chance of a life time and I am so glad your son got it ... Congratulations!!!

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