I hate my mother/family

usualusername

Hi people

I have never had any affection for my mother and this has evolved into full blown hatred.

Have been to a counsellor for a number of reasons and she described my mother as a sadist.

One example. She moved home and did not tell me where she lived. She has no mobile so i had no means of contacting her.

1 year later JWs are telling me what a wonderful home she has. Yes witnesses were invited to my mums when I did not know where she lived!

2 years later she calls me up and accuses me of being a terrible son for not keeping contact. I confront her about her move and she denies not telling me.

Now thats out my system do any people here hate their family too?

Ps
I was a fader and not disfellowshipped

PaintedToeNail

You get to choose your friends, but you are stuck with whomever are your family...I'm very sorry she has been hurting you this way, no one deserves that.

Morbidzbaby

I can't say I "hate" my family... I despise the things that were done to me as a child, for sure. I resent some things about my parents because of that. However, they did give me help when I needed it, so I can't say I hate them. I hate what they did. I hate what this cult has done to my dad.

Now, my grandmother and grandfather? YES, I hated them with every ounce of my being (which is pretty substantial). They were horrible people, deserving of hatred.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this from your mother. If she's a toxic person, it might just be better for you to cut ties altogether. Why should you be made to feel constantly angry and be put on a guilt trip for something she herself did?

usualusername

She called me today.

Can i say she pissed me off just by hearing her voice?

I wont even go into what she said.

Being someone who hates my family is a lonely club.

sizemik

Being someone who hates my family is a lonely club.

Hate is a strong word. I have nothing to do with my surviving family and have no desire to. They have never been JW's and were quite accommodating and friendly while I was one.

Since leaving the JW's I have been "disfellowshipped" by them for an undisclosed reason. I don't get notified or invited to Birthdays, Weddings, Births, Christmas, or any family gathering. We have absolutely no contact and haven't done for several years. Even a 7.1 magnitude earthquake that killed 185 people in this city, was not reason enough for any of them to phone.

Fuck 'em.

blondie

IF you should ever want to figure out someone's location and they have purchased property, most counties in the US have online listings of properties and the owners, complete with address. Not that you have to make contact.

Like sizemik, I have chosen not to have contact with my jw family though I am considered "only" inactive.

Don't waste your energy hating them. Turn it around and be positive about yourself and pursue your goals and dreams.

Love, Blondie

usualusername

Sizemik

My mother is a regular pioneer and one of my brothers is an elder.

Hate is a strong word. Give me a stronger one.

Fuck 'em. Ditto........

usualusername

blondie

My mother called today and said how much she cared amount me. If I type how I feel I will be banned.............

Thats what has pissed me off.

I have never sworn so much in my life. Fuck!

sizemik

To be perfectly honest . . . it hurts.

But Blondie is right . . . hating them is a waste of energy. It shows they still heavily influence our consciousness. In time their influence diminishes . . . and that's actually the refreshing part. Contrary to popular belief . . . they're not irreplaceable. Give that part time . . . but move on also.

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

UUN, Are you still seeing a counsellor/psychologist? That has really, really helped me come to terms with my family.

I hate my mother/family

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