Hey Raisin
I could definitely believe all of what you said. Like Billy stated, "so much for orphans and widows". You don't have to be a physical orphan, but a spiritual one, if you are the only one in the "truth", like I was. There were times I was struggling and the elders knew it. Since we were told our worldly families were in Satan's system AND I didn't want to make Jehovah or the Org look bad, I didn't tell my fam, who would have CERTAINLY helped. Actually, when my fam did figure some things out, they offered me help, which I did accept graciously, yet embarrassed by it.
I remember even after fading from the "truth", when I was caring for someone who was Catholic, he asked me to go to the food pantry for him and his wife. In all honesty, I felt guilty by it, but I went, justifying it was part of my job. Crazy, huh? So I can understand families who were programmed it's all BAAAAD, not wanting to go to a food pantry...UP TO A POINT.
When it comes down to the spiritual family not lifting a friggin finger to offer assistance, like cooking a meal for the fam, slipping $20 into someone's purse, or taking a few bags of groceries to the home, ring the bell and skedaddle like hell, WTF is one supposed to do? Starve to death? Food stamps is an option, but many times that does not cover an entire month.
So someone has to begrudgingly "lower themselves" and go to a food bank, pantry or other charity to get some temporary assistance so their family can survive, and they are supposed to feel guilty over it? Holy crap this shit boils my brains! THEY..meaning from the top on down should be ashamed of THEMSELVES if it is at all known a family or one person in that congregation needs assistance in ANY way!
IF the elders did their JOB as shepherds over the flock, they would know when something was not quite right. Besides, if they couldn't figure it out, there's always that juicy gossip they'll most likely hear from their wife. I hated going past a stranger and not hand out something, let alone knowing a fellow brother, sister or "family member" were in need. I'm the kind of person that just feels compelled to do something. I'd rather people not know I did, so as not to embarrass them or make a show of myself. So, for the life of me, I cannot fathom how the elders WOULD NOT help. If Jesus had a grave, he'd be rolling in it!
What they need is a a contribution box in the hall for assistance of such matters, and things can be done discreetly. Oh, I'm living in a frickin fantasy world! The Society wants as much money as they can get their grubby little hands on, the elders are too busy doing non-important, non-life-saving work and most other people would rather gossip about your plight than help you.
Did I mention I THANK GOD I'm otta there? Now I can continue to do some REAL good!