Just like to share a personal experience:
My wife and I left in June 2005 over the UN issue. A year later the elders wanted to know where we celebrated the 2006 Memorial, as they had heard we had our own.
Because we had our own memorial, the elders were looking for an excuse to brand us as apostates, but they refused to put the charges in writing. I told them over the phone that until they put charges in writing I would not be attending the judicial hearing. After no little haggling I finally told them to "get what you are going to do done more quickly", an allusion to Jesus words to Judas.
Thankfully, they went ahead and disfellowshipped us, for what I don't know. BUT, HONEST, IT WAS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE. I AM SO HAPPY THEY DISFELLOWSHIPPED US. We finally got our lives back after 45 years for me and 55 years for my wife in that horrible place.
For me, the only place for me is away from there----OFFICIALLY------I was 60, tried like crazy to reason with the WT and 'correct' their course, hoping that I would be the great MOSES to lead the people back to Jehovah. Being disfellowshipped for opposing their involvement with the UN was like being burned at the stake for owning a Bible in the dark ages.
What a release it was to be cast out of that place. Truly it is an HONOR.
Later one of the elders called and apologized for treating us so badly. That was the truth. They did, but I am so glad they did.
Brant