Update: Much has changed since I posted my question and concerns. I want to especially thank "OnTheWayOut"!!! I purchased a pdf online of CRISIS OF CONSCIENCE for both of us. He was blown away, as was I. I knew if he would just see it with his own eyes he would react the way he did. He read the entire book in a weekend which is really commendable for someone who dislikes reading.
It cracked me up that while he was reading almost ever 30 minutes or so he would say "what" or "unbelievable" or "I can't believe it"...or just sit and shake his head. Which is saying a lot for someone who is not very expressive. This book opened the flood gates for us to communicate everything about the organization and the beliefs. After reading this book we mutually agreed to not go into hiding from JW family/friends and the congregation anymore. We have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.
If Raymond Franz and those around him endured what they did my husband and I can certainly deal with what our future holds. We decided that the possible sacrifice of losing friends and family will (in time) be insignificant to the our new found "FREEDOM"! Besides, we have taken a hard look at the relationships we currently have with our fellow JW's and have concluded that, what are they really if they are "conditional"? If they turn their back on us for being truthful, it is a sad reflection on them, not us. We simply can be part of this "club" anymore:)
Oh, quick shout out to JWfacts...in consideration of your suggestion to simply ask questions has not only helped with this issue but has helped our marriage grow stronger. I do not wonder what he is thinking anymore. I used to just let him be silent and shut down. Now he participates in conversations because he knows that I really do want his opinion and feelings (guys just love feelings),ha.
Incidentally, after he read the book I asked: Now that you have read the book and realized that "this cannot be God's organization" would you want to reverse time and not have this knowledge? He responded "I definitely could not have appreciated the indisputable reasons to get out"! Besides, if we are content with a little knowlege of the fallacies and just leave then we are less likely to help others get out, which could be selfish (in my opinion). We mutually agree to not be silent and we will never look back and wonder...what a great feeling.
Again, thank you OnTheWayOut!
P.S. My husband asked to see the documentaries that expose the hidden pedophilia. He is very angry like me now and totally understands why this issue is what set me off! Until you hear the victims stories personally it does not really hit the heart<3