Frustrated

jemba

Sitting in the local cafe enjoying a coffee this morning when the witnessing group showed up.

Before I had a chance to escape I was sharing my table with 2 'sisters'. One was my best friend for years until I stopped going to meetings. (such conditional friendships).

Before I knew it I was being bombarded with questions like how I was going spiritually. Questions they already knew the answers to by the way.

As a fader I want to keep the relationship with my parents and siblings so I cant come out and say what I really think or I'd be DF.

I was dying to let loose and tell them it was all a load of BS, they are being lied to and wasting their lives.

Im lucky to have the support of my Husband in our leaving the borg but I get so frustrated when confronted with these brainwashed fools.

The woman who used to be my best friend and her elder husband are taking their 3 young children to a dangerous third world country (think child abduction and organ harvesting) to serve where the need is great. CRAZY!!

These people truly are brainwashed and we cant even try and get through to them for fear of being DF.

In case you wondered my family live interstate so its mainly phone contact with them and they never ask about my spirituality as they know Ive faded.

So its just the occasional witless who flags me down on the street now (they dont bother coming to my house).

Im interested to hear from all those poor frustrated people who cant totally let it all go because of family or friends they dont want to hurt. My sympathies are especially with those who have a partner in the 'troof'.

Jemba

Phizzy

Hi Jemba, I find myself in exactly the same position sometimes, and if there are "two witnesses" you have to be especially careful not to say the wrong thing.

I wonder if anyone has any ideas of the sort of thing we could say, that even if it got back to the Elders they could do nothing about, but that might raise the cognitive dissonance levels of the Dubs we talk to ?

I was thinking of saying something like "I have been reading a lot of History lately, and its funny, every book I look at says Jerusalem was destroyed twenty years later than we thought, doesn't that mean that 1934 was an important year ?"

I know you will get the 607WT given to you, but that is a start.

Any better ideas anybody ?

jemba

Thanks Phizzy, yeah I do need to say something to at least stop them thinking I might come back.

I nearly said that I have some issues with 'some' doctrines but they are both knowledgable (WT wise) and will try and get it out of me so they can put me on the 'right track'. Say too much and their elder husbands will be round my house like a flash!

Its hard to remember that they are brainwashed like I was once. I get angry with them for being such fools, one of the sisters was a COs wife for years and I seriously wonder if she even experiences any cognitive dissonance especially as shes a born in.

cedars

Ah, yes - the "chance encounter". I know how painful those can be. I've had a few of those myself recently, i.e. walking down the street and being intercepted by local dubs doing streetwork. You can see them judging you in their eyes. Not pleasant.

Cedars

cantleave

It is sad that when you can still talk to them, you can not be 100% honest as to how you really feel. When you can say the truth, i.e when you have DA'd or been DF'd, you can no longer talk to them. It is the perfect example of "information control"!

Even when I was invited to attend the JC, and I refused, I didn't let on as to how I really felt.

jemba

So true Cedars, you always see them judging you. They dont know it but you can see it in their face and eyes.

Yes Cantleave if youre DF they have control of the situation -they ignore you and pretend you dont exist. And if you hide your true feelings you are frustrated and cant tell them a thing in case you end up in a JC situation..... damned if you do damned if you dont.

chicken little

I usually control the conversation (jep I hog it!) by telling them about how busy I am and how good life is, I talk about my kids (not Jws anymore) and how happy we are even though we have been through an awful lot of trauma this last year (son injured in Afghanistan). I do not give them a chance to preach. When they say, as they always do; we miss you, then I reach out and touch their arm and look them in they eye and say, thank you so much, it is nice to be missed, but I am really very happy so do not worry. It works everytime. They go away looking completely confused as they did not get to make me feel miserable, they are the ones feeling odd after talking to me. Try it.

Love Chicken little

cedars

chicken little

When they say, as they always do; we miss you, then I reach out and touch their arm and look them in they eye and say, thank you so much, it is nice to be missed, but I am really very happy so do not worry. It works everytime. They go away looking completely confused as they did not get to make me feel miserable, they are the ones feeling odd after talking to me. Try it.

That's an awesome suggestion!! I will try that next time I get the opportunity.

Cedars

jemba

Thanks Chicky, excellent suggestion, I will def try that one. Sorry about your Son, hope hes on the mend.

FrenchFreeJW

If they ask you when will you come back to meeting, you should answer "Soon... As for Armaguedon, very soon. You know the worker of the last hour of which Jesus speaked (mat 20:6) ? It's me !"

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