I don't no why, but I tend to lurk more than I do post. Sometimes I feel like I don't have anything to worth while to talk about. LOL
ON THAT NOTE: I am so excited! I'm having a baby. I'm 5 months pregnant and on Friday my fiance and I find out what it is. I hope it is a boy. =]
Besides the morning sickness, it's really hitting me that I am pregnant. lol
I will admit it has be tough. I haven't told most of my family, they're mostly JWs. My mom is still very active and she is excited, but I think she is afraid to tell anyone (her close JW friends) that I am pregnant. She has a twin brother who lives back east and they are very close. He is an elder and she hasn't even told him. It hurts just a lil bit. I want to tell him, but he doesn't talk to me because I've strayed from "the truth". He had kids late in life, they are toddler and grade-school age, and I would love for my child to know them; just from a family sense.
Then I am asking myself just how am I going to raise our child. My fiance doesn't go to church at all, but he does do all the holiday stuff. His family isn't that big on birthday parties. My fiance said when he was little he never had a birthday party or cake. His parents just got some him cheesecake and called it a day. I still find that hard to believe.
It's strange thinking about what am I going to pull back on or reference to my kids about my childhood.
My mom pulled out my baby book the other day and a good amount of my baby pictures were me dressed up at assemblies and gatherings and memorial events. I admit a strong part of me was like, "Wow, my baby isn't going to have that."
I should be happy about that RIGHT?? But I don't know. Even though I know what I know now, and I don't want my kid raised on a JW regiment, I still feel like he's going to miss out on something. I don't know why. I still have happy memeories that I admit were because of the JW "social" experience.
Can any parents post-Borg give any advice on how you're raising your kids. How do you handle the holiday stuff and birthdays? How do you explain your childhood to them? Do you include your JW family on your family events or do you do a reverse shun? Do you talk about god or any type of spiritual stuff?
Besides that I'm getting married to my worldly fiance, but that is for another post. Esp when a JW came out the woodwork on my FB page went fanatical on me when I posted a picture of my enagement ring. LOL!!