Are Flamers & Atheists More Mature Than JW's?

by Englishman 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • Amazing
    Amazing

    Hi Englishman:

    "IMO it goes to prove that ex's - even those who are having mega disagreements with others right now, are actually more loving than everyday JW's."

    Enrique Goldenberg, a friend and former manager once told me that when people stop raising concerns, complaints, and voicing disagreements, even strongly, then they no longer care.

    He is a unique man. Born a German-Jew, he grew up in Chile, went to university in the USA, then moved to Denmark where most of his family is now ... then he moved back to the USA, where I met and worked for him in San Francisco. One of our co-workers, Atif, a very militant Palestinian ... hated Enrique because he is a Jew ... but somehow, even in this tense situation, they managed to work together and get along. I have to mostly credit Enrique because he somehow understood human nature from many angles ... and knew when it was best to say something or not to say something ... and still not leave people feeling bad either way. What you posted reminded me a lot of things Enrique would say.

  • RunningMan
    RunningMan

    I agree with the four classifications, but not necessarily with their positioning. I do not see any likelihood of group III migrating to IV.

    I would suggest that the positioning of level I and II are correct, then a person diverges into either III or IV. The last two levels are equal, but different.

  • gravedancer
    gravedancer

    Runningman - we think alike.

    Hell would have to freeze over (and therefore not exist) for me to become a number 4!!!

  • Farkel
    Farkel

    Englishman,

    I'm a fan of Peck. I readily recognize all four steps you outlined. The problem with trying to box in stages of growth is the implicit argument that one has reached to a new level, all of the obstacles in the previous level is overcome. In real life, such is not the case.

    A "Stage IV" person will never shred all traces of narcicissm (Stage "I"). Nor will such a person completely get rid of the notion that s/he would secretely like to find a place in the "Stage II" world, i.e. a world where others relive one of the burdens of completely taking responsibility for one's life. A "Stage IV" person would also likely drop back into skepticism, because without skepticism there can be no growth.

    I would define in a nutshell a "Stage IV" person as one who reached the level of acceptance for what is, but who diligently works for what might be. What is, is this very instant in time and since it is already here for this instance, only a fool would see that to resist it is futile. What might be is the next instant in time is so fractionally small it is immeasurable. However, entire cultures have been totally transformed in that nanosecond from what "is" to what would "be" because "Stage IV" people recognized what "what you resist, persists." They didn't waste precious time worrying about what "is", but instead used each of those nanoseconds working on what might "be." Does that make sense?

    I spend several hours on a trip recently with a 74 year-old hippie guy. He had spent his entire life traveling all around the world working on social and environmental issues with various so-called social "fringe groups." Although highly educated, he no material possessions and was quite content doing the most menial of labor to buy a few necessities as he needed them. There was a sparkle in his eye that cannot be described in a way that would do it justice.

    While long past retirement age, he was as active as ever, trying in his own way to better the world. He was also an atheist. When I asked him about the dichotomy of being an atheist, yet devoting his entire life to improve people's condition on this planet, he replied, "Well it's the right thing to do, isn't it?" Now THAT is what I would call "spirituality." He had no worry about his eventual demise and no agenda to receive some eternal reward for doing what he thought was right.

    Secular humanists have done far more good for this world than religion could ever do, IMNSHO.

    Farkel

  • ThiChi
    ThiChi

    Farkel: Dr. Peck states that a person may still be in transference from one stage to another and still retain other stages.

    Must read: The Road Less Traveled and Further along the Road Less Traveled. By the way, Dr. Peck is a Christian.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Farkel

    To add a bit to one of your comments. Ken wilber has the theory that lower stages are not discarded when one develops to a higher stage. He says that one transcends stages. Lower levels are encompassed by the higher levels. They remain parts of the person and are not rejected, for to reject a part of himself, would lead to a problem. To illustrate, most of us can look back on thoughts, feelings we had when we were adolescents, or even younger. If we have not rejected, but passed through those stages, they are still there, but they rarely affect us much anymore. One could picture the first level as a core, the next level as a bigger sphere with the core at its center, the next level containing the previous one at its center and so on.

    SS

  • Imbue
    Imbue

    English ,
    These are stages many of us have been through. I was raised a Catholic. Then I was an atheist when the JWS came along.

    However, these stages may not happen in the order you describe. And each stage may be repeated more than once.

    Crazy is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

  • SYN
    SYN

    I think there's another stage we must add:

    Stage V - The Drinker: People in this stage exhibit a communal, mystical spirituality, having been affected by looking through the bottom of a beer glass too much. They see the world through a golden-brown haze of alcohol, and are usually found preaching to people who don't want to listen to their message in pubs and bars across the country. If you look into their eyes, you will see a certain redness, the result of their extremely rigorous spiritual training and being part of the drinking community for too long. This stage is better than the lower stages because when they argue, they are usually too pissed to argue for more than 5 minutes wihtout falling off their barstool.

    The earlier in the forenoon you take the sun bath, the greater will be the beneficial effect, because you get more of the ultra-violet rays, which are healing. - The Golden Age

  • Seeker4
    Seeker4

    Saint Satan, my first response in reading Peck's ideas was also about Ken Wilber. His work has been a huge influence on me as I left the Witnesses.

    Wilber's spiral of consciousness is a bit more complex than Peck's, and also takes into consideration the fact that a person can be on one level of consciousness in some aspects of his life and on a lower or higher level in other areas. I appreciate that Wilber takes into consideration that life and the human personality is far more complex than Peck's "four-stages" model allows for.

    For Gravedancer and others who question Peck's basic concept, Wilber, in his books, offers the results of several scientific studies of how individuals progress through various stages of spirituality or, more accurately, consciousness. He is much more difficult to read than Peck is, but I strongly recommend Wilber's "A Theory of Everything," and the more readable "One Taste," which is a year of Wilber's journals in which he explores all of these ideas.

    That having been said, I disagree with several statements in Peck's characterization of Stage IV, and I think Wilber would as well.

    I accept Peck's thoughts that the higher stages of human development would be marked by: "...Out of love and commitment to the whole, using their ability to transcend their backgrounds, culture and limitations with all others, reaching toward the notion of world community and the possibility of either transcending culture or -- depending on which way you want to use the words -- belonging to a planetary culture... not looking for clear cut, proto type answers, but desiring to enter into the mystery of uncertainty, living in the unknown... never separating himself from others with doctrine..."

    But I disagree that the higher levels of consciousness have anything to do with: "..They are religious...The Christian mystic, as with all other mystics, through contemplation, meditation, reflection and prayer, see the Christ, God's indwelling Spirit, in all people, including all the Buddhists, Hindus, Muslims, Jews and so forth, recognizing the connectedness of all humanity with God..."

    This religious language indicates that those at this level of existence have some sort of belief in a spirit world and in God or Christ, when that may not be so at all. Wilber uses contemplation and meditation as tools in moving to higher levels of consciousness, but approaches this like a good scientest approaches an experiment. If you do ABC and D, the result will be X. Wilber shows that for thousands of years, individuals who engage in a regular meditative or contemplative practice (ABC), always have produced the same results (X). Those results are in the first part of what I took from Peck's quote - a sense of unity, love and commitment toward all living things without concern for culture or background or doctrine.

    Now SOME have interpreted this sense of unity to a oneness with God or Christ or Buddah. Personally, I think this is simply a reflection of their religious background in Phase II. They may be religious, but never with a sense of dogmatism and a need to change others, because they've moved on from that lower stage.

    But others have not seen this sense of universal unity in religious terms, and this is where I differ from Peck. I would say that the 74-year-old atheist hippie that Farkel wrote about is likely at one of the highest levels in the development of human consciousness and what I would call genuine spirituality.

    I see spirituality now in terms of our relationship with other humans, with the earth, and ultimately, the universe itself. When I was a Witness, I thought of spirituality only in terms of my relationship with God and what I was DOING - was I praying, studying, preaching? But I now see that that had a lot to do with being religious, and nothing to do with being spiritual.

    Englishman asked if atheists are at a deeper level of spirituality than are JWs, and the answer is "Of Course!!" This was one of the great truths that I came to see as I left the Witnesses. Witness' 'spirituality' is actually very, very shallow. It seems to cover a wide area - Witnesses attend meetings, they preach, they study the Bible and build KHalls and assembly halls. It seems to cover such a huge area, every part of their lives even - but in reality it's paper thin.

    For example, Witness thought is that I love humankind and show that love by preaching to convert and save others. But the shallowness is shown by the actual Witness view of humanity in general - non-Witnesses are wicked, alienated from Jehovah, bad associations, and will be destroyed unless they start believing as Witnesses believe.

    I've written here and at the old H2O several times about the fact that some people leave the Witnesses because they are seeking a new "translation" of the same basic stories, and others leave because they are experiencing a genuine "transformation" to a new level of consciousness. This variation in thinking is evident in the age-old Witness panic question: "Where will I go to if I leave the Witnesses?!" Some people need a religion to tell them how to think and feel. They need to know that there is a big daddy in the sky looking over them who will make everything OK. So these folks, when they leave the WTS, scurry off to some other religion and the security that religious belief provides them in an uncertain world. They haven't transformed, they are merely seeking a new translation of the old religious ideas, and maybe one closer to their liking.

    Others who leave never want to belong to another controlling organization again. They are willing to face the uncertainty, and to do it on their own. They are in the process of a genuine transformation to a higher level of spirituality and consciousness. They no longer need the guiding hand of religion, just as a child grows up and moves out from under the control of his parents.

    You can easily see the difference between those who have merely moved to a new translation of the old myths, and those who have grown up spiritually, on a site like this one. The people who left the Witnesses seeking a new translation will come on here and argue about whether this particular Bible verse means that God is a trinity, or if that verse proves the soul is mortal, or if this other one proves it's immortal, or what the meaning of this or that Bible prophecy is.

    A person who has moved on to the next level of spiritual development just sees all of that as silliness - like an adult listening to children on a playground arguing about the tooth fairy.

    One last point. Another reason I disagree with Peck's stages is that I found myself going through what he labels as Stage IV and then moving on to something much closer to what he calls Stage III, and I agree that they are at least somewhat reversed. I know a ton of people who are into a sort of quasi-spirituality, seeing themselves as mystics, or something akin to mystics. But if that level of consciousness does not take into account the proofs and evidence so abundant in the world of science and logic, it's nothing more than a more sophisticated form of the fundamentalism found in Peck's Stage II.

    For example, I might enjoy a Solstice celebration because of its recognition of our connection with the earth and the seasons. But if I REALLY believe that that celebration is what is going to cause the days to lengthen as the sun returns to the Northern Hemisphere where I live, well, I'm just another poor, ignorant asshole. Anyone familiar with some of the aspects of the New Age, New Paganism movements will understand what I mean by that comment.

    Anyway, enough of that. But I highly recommend anyone who is interested in the thoughts Eman started this thread with, to check out the writings of Ken Wilber. Be prepared for a rather fascinating intellectual adventure. You may never see the world in the same way again.

    S4

  • Englishman
    Englishman

    Hi Seeker 4,

    Long time no see, I hope all is well with you.

    I take your point about the various aspects of life not occuring in neat little packages that can be easily labelled - that's my interpretation of what you wrote, BTW. My guess is that MSP has it partially correct in his grouping of different aspects to stages of development, although I guess that they don't necessarily appear in any particular order.

    Englishman.

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