WasAnElderOnce,
Unless you plan on re-joining the cult, I'm with the rest of the posters. There isn't anything good that can result from speaking to these men again. I'm not discounting that there may have been some true concern by these elders, but they were also on a fishing expedition. Wolves in sheep's clothing as it were. But I think you know that.
And their 'training' almost certainly involves more clearly defined administrative protocols and procedures that are designed by the Dark Lords to protect the Dark Tower from liability and nothing more. All of my 'training' when I was an elder was forgettable nonsense. I don't ever recall any of it dealing with truly caring for individual sheep above their own precious hides. If you don't tell these men what they want to hear or give them what they want to see, I think you know how quickly their 'training' will drive them to view you as an enemy deserving of death.