As an active witness ATM I speak reguarly with friends and family who are also active. It seems however that there are some things that people are comfortable discussing such as beards (whats the problem) and birthdays (everyone would if they could) and, if you are with close friends, things like confusion over the generations, pressure of keeping all the balls juggled, harshness of rules around DA/DF ones along with long lapsed family and to some extent blood.
My guess is that there are many more who may be in a similar state of mind to me and wondering if it really is all worth it. It makes me wonder about how many with express themselves more if they could? Is there actually a substantial proportion of the active base, esp in the west, that could falter if not caught in this grip of fear of rejection by friends and family?
I guess there's no way of knowing for sure but doesn't stop me wondering.