Well, I wouldn't say I had much courage. I live 1000 miles from where I was last a JW and it's been 20+ years. Even if somebody happened to relocate here as well, I doubt they'd recognize me. I discovered the dates where different between my friend's invite and mine. So I went to the weekend for his territory meaning not even the JWs I talked to when they came knocking would recognize me.
When I went to my dad's funeral up north and saw JWs I knew, it was way more intimidating. My only refuge being it was my father's funeral and hopefully they wouldn't mess with me. But I sure did get cards with notes telling me I should return. As well as verbal expressions of the same. I also worried that at some point, they would try to corner me and try to get a "resolution" to my fading and tie up their loose end. Which I'm reluctant to do as long as my sisters are alive and still JWs.
But down here, they think of me as just a clever householder and are still trying to love-bomb me to join them. Do you know how free that feels? Maybe if you had the courage to stand up to the ones you know, you do. I can walk into that convention and nobody knows me. Nobody can tell me I should be doing this or that or that I should have worn a suit or whatever. And more locally, on my doorstep, do you know how great it is to stand there and tell an elder to his face that he's not making any sense, that his argument is stupid, and show it to him and watch him get that dumbfounded look on his face? (To which he told me to write the Society). I can argue with an elder and question without reprecussions and it feels so good. And there's not any risk in my situation, so courage not required.
As for the beard, the reason I noticed that is because I wear what might be considered a beard. Some would call it a goatee, but I've been told the proper name is a Van Dyke. Kind of a mustache and a goatee that go up/down to meet each other. It is kept very neat and very short.
I do not know current policy and I wanted to more or less look the part of somebody who might be part of a congregation. But back in my days as a JW, the hair I wear on my face would have been frowned on. So I was alert to see how many people where wearing beards. And I think I saw 2 guys, one maybe in his 50's, one in his 60's. And one guy with a moustache.
The guy in his 60's looked a little out of place. He might have been an apostate. He looked slightly too well dressed and maybe it was the beard and the professor look, but he looked too smart to be a JW.
So I was a little self conscious about whether my look gave me away.
Then this guy comes out on stage playing the part of the husband and I'm thinking great! No issues with beards here. There's a guy with a part on the drama and he's got a beard and it's not because he's playing an ancient Israelite. I'm good. Then I find out he's not baptised.
Well there you go, if you're not baptised, you're always pictured as following worldly trends.
Another fallacy. I grew up a JW. I knew all the do's and don't's before I got baptised. They always present such people as a bit out of touch as to how to be a JW until they get baptised. Then they get serious and follow the rules. Before I was baptised, I didn't feel like I had any such freedom of choice to play fast and loose with the rules.
I don't know what the rules on beards are now, but from what I saw, they're still frowned on. Not part of the dress code. Even though I remember a bunch of illustrations of Jesus with a beard.