As stupid as pioneer is being about having a "conversation", he's (or she) is right. These are things that are told to the newly arrived volunteers. They all take the vow of poverty.
My sister was in Bethel for about 6 years before she married and did not get accepted as a "couple". So they also got the boot.
Luckily they both already had college degrees under their belts so they did not have such a tough time when they left.
Mav.-