well peoples, we went shopping for a bunch of new basics including school iniform stuff. oh, and coffee and cheescake.
Right now she is a pretty good frame of mind, the missing her siblings is much reduced and her anger/upset last night was more to do with the stepfathers actions. She is very aware of just what he has demonstrated.
She knows she can see her mother again, who hinted at seeing her in 2 weeks, so i am guessing she wants the old every second weekend thing...but i cant see daughter wanting to sleep over for a while seeing as she cant stand the stepdad in the same room. They run a shop and she had to visit them at the shop, they locked her out of the house! She managed to climb thru a window and pack a bag ready but got sprung when she went to pick it up as he wouldnt let her out of his sight.
I agree on her documenting all this and i have raised to possibility of police action if her money is not coughed up in the next 30 days. As for her other effects she is going to try to smuggle bits out if she can, what cant be, i will gladly replace and let them have their pathetic 'victory'. There is not really any need for a custody arrangement at her age, no court will rule on a 15 1/2 year olds dwelling. If her being here was challenged all she has to do is tell the police her wishes and they will walk away. I do think a police report is a good idea, again, documentation.
I have no respect or regard for the man, i feel pity for her mother who may be 'obeying' her husband and letting her daughter be lost to her. But that is her load and burden to carry. On her head be it. I have thought of ways to 'punish' them but I will not, i will demonstrate to my children that returning hurt for hurt is not the way. The only repurcussions will be whatever must happen legally if at all, such as child support matters and social security etc. I don't want any bridges burnt for my girl from my end, they are burning enough of them as it is it would seem. Hopefully she will stay in contact with her syblings and be able to tell them when it is time.
Today marks what i hope is the start of a new chapter for my daughter, the locking out and the whole denying her from taking her stuff is the act of the 'kicking out' the step father wanted to do. That was pretty definite closure of a door for her i think.
Thankyou all for the love and support, the kind words and suggestions. I will take all of them on board and see what transpires from here on...
OZ
