Do these people realize the effect shunning has on the outsiders?

jam

This past week my sister called and ask if I knew my oldest

daughter was in town. She lives in a different state (1500 miles).

My sister was invited to a baby shower (my nephew baby).

Now get this, my ex (JW) and her husband when they are in town

they stay at my brother home (JW). My brother will not allow me into

his home. The Jw side of the family stay in contact with my sister who

has never been a JW and never will, in fact she warn people in her

church about becoming a JW. It,s good in away because we would

never know how that side of the family is doing.

To get back to the baby shower of course all JW,s . So my sister

walks in the first to greet her, my ex (baby shower in my brother home).

Then my daughter, Hi aunt_______. The first word out of my sister mouth

"have you seen your father". How long has it been, 10-12 yrs, he only

live a few miles, has he ever seen his grandkids yet.

My sister said it just made her sick, the fake smiles. She left shortly

afterward. My daughter travel over 1500 miles to a baby shower but

can not take a few minutes to see how her father is doing. This cult

makes me ill. It will never stop.

Jam- I am so sorry, what a sad and tragic outcome. I'm babysitting my grandson this weekend, my daughter left the JWs just before I did. I could not imagine life without my grandson. My brother who is an Elder has never seen my grandson and never made any attempt to see him, his loss.

Ding

I don't think they care about the effect it has on outsiders.

It's a part of the us v. them mindset...

wasblind

Yes Jam, it's a very destructive cult

ruderedhead

Jam, I am so very sorry for the pain this must cause you. When people hear about this type of behavior, it makes the witnesses look mean and spiteful, not to mention cult-like. It seems there are some who take a hard line approach with the shunning, and some who are a bit softer when it comes to family. Hard liners are certainly NOT following Christ's example. All the best to you.

cobaltcupcake

They must be deliberately blinding themselves to the fallout. When I tell people I'm being shunned by my elderly mother and my brother they are shocked - I mean really and truly shocked to their shoes. It ain't good PR, that's for sure.

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blondie

I remember being 16 years old in d2d in the country, small subdivision. A fellow teenage jw was with me and an angry man came to the door. He proceeded to tell me about a jw family that had kicked their 16 year old daughter out of the house because she was pregnant. No one in the congregation would take her in and because of the lack of legal steps taken by her family, Children Services was blocked in doing anything. So this man and his wife had taken her in regardless, helped before, during, and after the birth of her baby. So here I was the first jw to darken their door since that time...a somewhat naive 16 year old.

I told him her family were wrong, that it was not Christian, and I'm glad they were true Christians by showing her love and hugged him. I knew what it was like to be labeled and shunned at the KH just because my father was not a jw. My jw partner and I went back to the car and she started saying he was lying, that she didn't know about any such jw family. Me, I made a few calls and confronted the one elder I knew might tell me the truth; he admitted that this family had a "strict" interpretation about not associating with the df'd failing to recognize the secular responsibility to care for minor children until 18. The elder just said that they weren't responsible for enforcing Caesar's laws.................

I told him what a wonderful impression about jws this made on that man and his family and how I was ashamed to say I shared any Christian fellowship with that jw family.

But I convinced myself that God saw this and took note and that they was no place in paradise for them. Years later, I realized how naive that was.

jam

Thanks folks. Venting my frustration. The cult is like a

incurable disease, it lay dormany for awhile and then

raises it,s ugly head.

maccauk11

Where is the love , where is the fruitage of the spirit, wehre is the fogiveness 7 x77 , where is the putting up with one another,

These people are enslaved and held captive. Thats because they do not know Jesus. They are missing out a living a life of justice and mercy just like the Lord taught his followers. My heart is sad for them

flipper

JAM- I'm so sorry you deal with this my friend. I haven't socialized with my 2 adult JW daughters for 9 years now. I often get sad about it and think about my daughters often. Please know that I'm with ya in spirit bro. If you ever want to talk, PM me man. And no, these people dO nOT realize the effect shunning has on us. They are mentally ill in a mind controlled condition, essentially they have lost aLL human compassion and their authentic personality. Let's hope that some of your or my JW family wises up and exits the JW cult. Hang in bro, Peace out, Mr. Flipper