Thoughts??
I'd say that my siblings and I have gotten minimal hounding. I believe that to a great extent, it was because we had already used the stuff I suggested in these threads... which you've probably already read:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/254990/exjw-psychology-102-how-ask-question-when-questions-arent-allowed?size=20&page=1
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/256052/exjw-psychology-104-one-way-play-depression-card
So the elders already have to realize that if they come a knockin' they'd better have answers to the questions I'd previously raised. Abbreviated example...
Them: "Billy, you need to get back to preaching kingdumb troothz!"
Me: "I'm glad you brought that up, do you have a response for my coworker who raised the "kangaroo question", how am I supposed to respond to that?"
Them: "We'll get back to you on that. How about you get back to attending the meetings!"
Me: "I really hate to admit this, but I get so depressed at the meetings. I'll tell you about it, but you probably won't understand. You see, when I go to the meeting and see both of you sitting with each of your families and children, it makes me sad because I was convinced by WT that singleness and not having children was the way to go because armageddon was so close... back in the 1980s. So now I go to the meetings and listen to counsel that I'm supposed to be having a family study. That's just a painful reminder that I made some bad decisions based on some bad advice."
...awkward silence...
Them: "Oh, if you come back to the meetings there are lots of single sisters that are looking for a wonderful husband like you would be!"
Me: "You mean like sister [insert name of a single sister that would make them cringe]. I was an elder long enough to realize that getting married isn't necessarily any key to happiness. While I was in bethel, the seeds of remaining single were planted very deeply and cause me inner turmoil EVERY DAY."
Them: "Well, it's been nice catching up with you. We'd love to see you actively serving Joe Hovah again."
Me: "It's been good talking to you and getting a few of these things off my chest."
They leaving thinking, "You mean there's more stuff like that to get off his chest? We'll just leave this in Joe Hovah's hand."
* Disclaimer: Your results and talking points may vary.
