What I'd like to know is, all these people who say they are saving themselves for their wedding night (women especially): what exactly are you saving? Your innocence?
For all eternity the definition of virginity has been a pretty shakey one. Women for instance can tear their hymen simply by riding a horse slightly too vigorously, or falling down a flight of steps.
I don't see why people even bother labelling themselves as virgins - why not rather be a bit more candid and just say "Look, I've had sex" or "No, I haven't had sex".
Sex isn't the horrid thing that most people like to portray it as.
But this is a social thing, as per usual. A lot of the smaller, more obscure cultures on Earth see sex as a beautiful, natural thing, and that's the view I like to go with. There are no 'virgins' in many of these societies.
Would you buy a car if you hadn't taken it for a test drive first? What if you and your husband are *physically* incompatible in bed? Would you like to live with that sexually incompatible man for the rest of your life? Surely it's easier just to try it a coupla times rather than have an expensive, painful divorce years later?
"...the greater will be the beneficial effect, because you get more of the ultra-violet rays, which are healing" - The Golden Age
[SYN], UADA - Unseen Apostate Directorate of Africa.