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    Complex story, tragic ending teach lessons

    Published: March 23, 2002

    The Bryant suicide-murders continue to haunt the community.

    If someone had only known the depth of despair and desperation Robert Bryant was feeling, maybe the tragedy somehow could have been averted. If only ... if only ... if only ... .

    Compassion, not hatred, for the father is strong. How awful to experience such isolation and devastation to believe that the best way to take care of your family is to kill them. If his wife's sister still thinks of him as a caring father and husband, maybe the rest of us can, too. No one must feel the pain more than she.

    He felt the collapse of all support from the Jehovah's Witness faith, a vital part of his life since childhood. He had the courage to turn away, but remained a very religious man. The shunning that followed, which most of us find totally incomprehensible, brought complete separation from birth family, friends and business customers.

    Tears have overflowed for the four children, whose bright promise for the future disappeared with the shotgun blasts. And for their loving mother, who met the same fate.

    Just as local adults respond to the tragedy with incomprehension, so do our children. But they must feel some anxiety, too. They need more hugs, more affirmation; they need conversations and counseling at school and at home to help ease the churning emotions.

    The candlelight vigil was poignant, although we don't accept the implication that domestic abuse was present in the Bryant family. The memorial service was moving, perhaps an experience that might be converted into increased sensitivity to others.

    McMinnville thinks of itself as a welcoming, friendly, helping town. It is. But obviously, not for everyone. So the horror being felt must be transformed into greater reaching out and, somehow, giving more visibility to where help can be found.

    We became spectators to a complex, tragic, human drama that somehow chose our community as a place to conclude its sad and lonely story. Our best outcome is to apply whatever lessons we can to the task of making this a better place to live.

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    Finances may have pressured Bryant

    Published: March 23, 2002

    By PAT FORGEY
    Of the News-Register

    The Bryant family was running out of money.

    A fresh look at the family's finances, aided with new information from relatives, indicates that when Robert Bryant took the lives of his four children, his wife, Janet, and himself, he may have faced looming financial difficulty.

    The family had already filed for bankruptcy once, in California in January 2000, in an effort to get out from under debts that were mounting while his landscaping business faltered.

    Members made a bold move to start a new life in Oregon last summer, arriving with a plan and setting out to implement it. They bought a nice piece of land on Pheasant Hill Lane from former Yamhill County Commissioner Dennis Goecks, with Goecks carrying the contract, and set about to find and finance a house.

    From Homes America's McMinnville office, they found an appropriate and reasonably priced model.

    It was basic, but the Bryants didn't plan to be in it long. Robert Bryant's long-term plan was to build his family a nice home on his own - something he had done before in his native Sacramento area.

    After coming out of bankruptcy in California, the Bryant family moved to Oregon seeking to start over. And at first, things looked good.
    Robert Bryant was hardworking and personable. And he knew landscape maintenance, having spent more than two decades in the business.

    He arrived in Yamhill County in June 2001, and quickly found work mowing lawns, fixing sprinkler systems and caring for shrubs.
    When he went to Homes America, he listed business income of more than $7,000 a month.

    "I can't emphasize enough, that was verified," said Vern Skoog, Homes America's general manager in McMinnville. The finance company wanted to see check stubs, receipts, bank statements and the like, he said, and Bryant provided it all.

    That might not have painted a full picture of Bryant's finances, however.

    Local landscapers expressed doubts that someone could so quickly break into a business in which so many property owners are under long-term contracts for lawn care.

    "I just started my fourth year, and I'm not making half that," said Ken Bales of McMinnville's All Seasons Lawn Maintenance.

    In any event, that figure is for gross income, before expenses.

    In California, Bryant told the federal bankruptcy court that he was also making about $7,000 a month. However, he listed expenses of more than $4,000 a month.
    Bryant faced additional hurdles as well.

    He came from an area where landscapers work year-round. But in the rainy Willamette Valley, the work declines in the fall and winter, as lawns go dormant and sodden flower beds are too muddy to be worked.

    Bryant first visited the area in the winter of 2000-01, searching for property.

    But 2000 was a drought year, so the winter was abnormally warm and dry. Many lawns needed mowing all year, keeping landscapers active through the winter months.

    That didn't happen in the wet winter just passed.

    Janet Bryant's sister, Sharon Roe, fears the winter before may have given her brother-in-law an incorrect picture of how much work would be available.

    It took months for the loan on the Homes America house to go through, in part because of the recent bankruptcy.

    During that time, more and more financial records were requested. Skoog said Bryant provided them promptly and they continued to demonstrate strong income.

    "Of course, when we were doing that, we were talking September and October, and we had the weather to maintain that kind of business," Skoog said.

    At the same time, Bryant's Landscape & Maintenance was challenging a host of existing landscape outfits in a field with a limited amount of business.

    "It's hard to break into it," said Rob Stephenson of McMinnville's Cascadia Landscaping. "There's a lot of competition."

    His company has more than 20 years in the local landscape business. Based on that, he would be surprised to see any newcomer do $7,000 a month in business, he said.

    Landscapers try to get 12-month contracts to guarantee stable income. Bryant had at least some contracts, but those are typically harder to get than one-time jobs. And the one-time jobs would have provided a distorted picture of his income.

    One other thing could have made Bryant's Oregon income look better than it really was.

    He had sold his landscaping business in California, but customers he had under contract there continued to pay him, Roe said.

    He then turned over that money to the new owner, of course, but it may have artificially inflated the size of his bank account for a while, she said.

    California problems

    The Bryant family may already have been living on the financial edge prior to coming to Oregon in any event.

    The bankruptcy the previous year erased the family's unsecured debt, mostly credit card debt. But it did little to help its underlying financial situation, said Michael Burkart, a bankruptcy trustee.

    Burkart retained his copies of the bankruptcy records, which are public documents, and reviewed them at the request of the News-Register.

    At the time of the filing, Bryant reported $7,049 in monthly income and $4,068 in monthly expenses. Add in house payments of $1,325, and smaller amounts for house insurance, health insurance and car payments, and the Bryant's monthly expenses even after leaving bankruptcy would have run $8,055.

    "You do the simple arithmetic, and they're under water by $1,000 a month," he said.

    None of the Bryant's expenses seemed unreasonable, he said. They covered food, utilities, insurance - nothing that could be considered a luxury.

    After the bankruptcy, most of the expenses other than credit card debt remained. The house payments, car payments and other necessities continued to total more that Bryant was making.

    "They've got something inherently wrong here," Burkart said.

    An Internal Revenue Service lien of $3,250, which Burkart said was not unusual to see when a small business fails, was not erased by the bankruptcy. One noncredit-card debt remained as well.

    When the Bryant's filed bankruptcy, they owed $11,464 to Steve and Brenda Maranville, from whom they had bought their house.

    That's a debt that he didn't have to pay, said Burkart, and not one in a thousand bankruptcy filers would do so. Robert Bryant, however, had an uncommon sense of responsibility.

    When they sold him the house, Bryant told them they were taking a risk. But Steve Maranville recalled, "He told me, 'I'll never let you down,' and he didn't."
    "He could have skipped out, no problem," Maranville said.

    The money runs out

    When the Bryants moved to Oregon, they sold their house in California for $269,000. They owed only $153,000 on it, so it should have netted them a substantial sum.

    After they covered real estate charges, and paid debts and moving costs, the remainder was what they had to establish themselves in Oregon. As expenses mounted, the amount dwindled.

    First came the $16,000 down on the property. Then Homes America's mortgage lender expressed concern about how much debt they had, so they paid off loans on their vehicles to remove those payments from their monthly finances.

    Eighteen months earlier, at the time of the bankruptcy, the Bryants owed $7,715 on one vehicle and $11,629 on the other. So they still had substantial obligations there.
    Setting up the new home was expensive as well. They had expenses for paving, excavation work, gravel, well-drilling, septic and water systems, power hookup and the like.

    Skoog estimated the site work costs at $30,000 or more. And in a somewhat unusual move, Bryant didn't finance that expense through the mortgage.

    "I can tell you this, he forked out a lot of money on his own," Skoog said. "His cash reserves had to be dwindling."

    By December, with little income and savings depleting, a distressed Bryant told his wife that they'd be out of money in two months, Roe said. She learned that directly from her sister, she said.

    It was two months after that that Bryant loaded two Mossberg shotguns, killed his four children and his wife of 17 years, then knelt in the living room and took his own life with a final blast.

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    Even the littlest honor slain family

    Published: March 23, 2002

    Bathed in light from a stained-glass window, Saskia, a fourth-grade classmate of Ashley bryant, is comforted by her mother during a memorial service Thursday held at Bethel Baptist Church in McMinnville.

    Tom Ballard / News-Register

    By STARLA POINTER
    Of the News-Register

    Most of Lynn Mekkers' fourth-graders squeezed into two pews near the front of Bethel Baptist Church Thursday afternoon.
    They snuggled close to one another and to their teacher, closer than necessary on the generously long bench seats. But the Memorial Elementary School students wanted to feel one another's reassuring warmth during the funeral for their classmate Ashley - for many, the very first funeral in their young lives.

    "I'm so proud of them. I have the most wonderful group of kids in the world," said Mekkers, who hugged students during the service and wiped away tears, both theirs and hers.

    Boys in junior suits and ties, boys in jeans, girls in long skirts and girls in play clothes, they all came to mourn for Ashley and her three siblings: Alissa, a second-grader at Memorial; Ethan, a sixth-grader at Patton Middle School; and Clayton, a sophomore at McMinnville High School.

    The Bryant children and their parents were found dead March 14 in their mobile home west of town. Police said father Robert Bryant fatally shot his children and his wife of 17 years, Janet, on Feb. 23, then took his own life.

    Ashley's classmates have gone through a lot of emotional ups and downs in the week since the news shocked the community, Mekkers said.

    "My students continue to hold onto each other and support each other," the teacher said. "Ashley was a true friend and a dream student. She is loved and missed."

    Mekkers said she feels badly for all of McMinnville's children who are trying to understand the inexplicable. "We can't give them answers. There aren't any answers," she said.

    Her students and about 50 other children were among more than 300 people who attended the memorial service. Other teachers who had the children in classes and law enforcement officials who worked on the murder-suicide case helped fill the sanctuary.

    The crowd included many people who had just come to know the Bryants since the tragic deaths were discovered.

    The family pews remained largely empty, though, occupied only by Janet Bryant's sister and a handful of other relatives. Neither of Robert's parents attended, nor did any of his siblings.

    Much of his family has been estranged from him in recent years, since his break with the Jehovah's Witnesses Church. The estrangement contributed to the Bryants' decision to move from their native Sacramento, Calif., area to McMinnville last June to start a new life.

    Messages of love and hope

    Janet Bryant's sister, Sharon Roe, thanked mourners for the compassion they've shown to her family. She said she remembers Robert as her beloved brother-in-law, Janet as her best friend and the children as beloved nieces and nephews.

    "These were peace-loving, gentle people," she said. "Let us carry those qualities in our minds and hearts forever."

    Robert's problem was depression, Roe said. She urged people to reach out for help when they are depressed or despairing.

    She and her brother, Tim Smith, wrote a thank you card that the Rev. Bard Marshall read during the service. "Thanks for the deep concern and understanding. This is a very loving, caring, beautiful community," the note said.

    Marshall added, "Had Robert known the people in this community who cared, this tragedy may never have happened."

    The minister told mourners they'll never be sure why the tragedy occurred or what if anything could have been done to prevent it. They need to pray for the Bryants and concentrate on God's promise of salvation, he said.

    "We see a great deal of love here. Pray that that continues," he said.
    And instead of asking why, people should look at the lessons this event has for the community, Marshall said.

    Robert Bryant felt alone and without hope, the minister said.

    Other people feel that way, too. We need to help them realize they're not alone and that there is hope.

    "I didn't know the Bryants; many of you didn't," Marshall said. "I feel somewhat guilty I didn't meet the Bryants and reach out. The church should feel a little guilty, too. We have signs that say 'come to church,' but the Bible says to believers that they should go to those around them with the message."

    Likewise, community members should reach out to one another, Marshall said. "It might make a difference in someone's life," he said.

    "Have you been a friend? Do you know your neighbor?" Marshall asked. "Be a neighbor. Be a friend."

    People cried then, again, as a soloist sang, "One Day at a Time." Mourners joined their voices together for "Amazing Grace," "In the Garden" and "Jesus Loves Me," a song especially directed toward the children.

    "We want young people to know that Jesus, God and your parents love you," Marshall said. "Parents, this is a time you need to pay particular attention and reassure your children."

    Remembering the family

    School buses rumbled along Baker Creek Road, taking most students home to play in the windy but mild spring weather. The Bryant children's classmates and teachers went from school to the church, instead.

    Photos of the clean-cut family and posters made by students greeted mourners as they arrived for the memorial service. People paused to read, sniffling and wiping away tears.

    One big piece of bright yellow butcher paper was covered with children's signatures. "Ashley, we love you," it read, with the word "love" represented by a big red heart.

    Another large sheet said simply, "It will be OK." Still another was covered with handprints and footprints of the children's friends and the words, "Remember the Bryants."

    Ethan's classmates had made a large magazine-photo collage and smaller posters. Messages written in crayon and marking pen said: "A kind soul." "Ethan, we will miss you." "If everyone was like you, Ethan, this world would be perfect."

    A heart-shaped wreath of roses, other flower arrangements and several plants filled the front of the church. A few children added single blooms. One gave a white teddy bear to a funeral director, who placed it on the altar.

    Hanna Logan, one of Alissa's second-grade classmates, walked slowly into the sanctuary with her little sister, Emily, and their mother, Linda. She carried a stuffed gorilla, all white except for a flower atop its head and a flower on its chest.

    "Alissa liked flowers," said Hanna, 7. "There was a rose on the gorilla's heart, so I picked that. And it has silver and pink and red on it, and lace. She'd like that."
    Hanna recalled playing with Alissa during recess and sitting near her in Carolyn Urnes' classroom. They also liked to sit together at lunch, she said.

    Before the service started, Hanna placed her gorilla near the altar.
    She went back to her seat and nestled against her mothers' side, trying hard not to cry. Afterwards, as she hugged a classmate, her tears flowed freely.

    "This was her first funeral," Hanna's mother said, hugging her daughter. "I'm proud of her. She did good, right up until the end."

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    We became spectators to a complex, tragic, human drama that somehow chose our community as a place to conclude its sad and lonely story. Our best outcome is to apply whatever lessons we can to the task of making this a better place to live.

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