Mum feeling depressed but they're the happiest people on earth

by not bitter 13 Replies latest jw friends

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  rebel8

  I'm too lazy to look it up but the litteratrash in the 70s and 80s used to say being happy was Jehovah's command. "Be joyful, in worshipping me, my people," or some crap like that. Being unhappy=disobedient.

  Also there was tremendous pressure back then to be happy in dubdom. There was something wrong with you if you aren't. Depression is a sign you are ungrateful and Satan has penetrated your brain. You were weak in your faith, etc.

  These were helpful doctrines in terms of letting me know the religion was full of wackadoodles.
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  Heaven

  JWs put on a facade of happiness but it doesn't last because it's based on vapourware and falseness.

  You will never be happy adopting someone else's definition of your life.

  YOU are the architect of YOUR life. No one else.

  The last time JWs were at my door (over 5 years ago) I told them what happened to my Mom. I said to them "If she had such a wonderful hope in Jehovah, why was she so miserable?"

  They couldn't wait to get off my porch.
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  LoisLane looking for Superman

  So many correct and wonderful comments.

  They Loving Shepherds in the congo make you feel like if you are not smiling like "Billy the Ex-Bethelite", (sorry Billy), that you must have a secret sin, or not praying, or your not doing enough service or, or ,or, or. Fill in the blank.

  The Society is heartless. They tell you what to do, what to feel and if you don't don't like it, you can leave, and they will decide if anyone can talk to you or mostly, not.

  Just Lois
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  not bitter

  Heaven - I think you've hit the nail on the head.

  'You will never be happy adopting someone else's definition of your life.'

  My mother has never been what I would call a happy person and maybe that is her nature. But I'm sure the pressures of JW life and the high expectations they have doesn't help. Maybe if she had lived a more carefree life without all the restrictions, she could have found ways of coping with her unhappiness.

  Its the high expectations they have of each other as well. When they see others in the congregation not showing Godly qualities, they get stumbled or feel let down. They care too much about how other people lead their lives. About others personality failings.

  I would say that the majority of worldlies couldn't care less how others live their lives. If I don't like a person, I walk away and don't keep them in my life. Its no big deal. But the witnesses are stuck associating with people they wouldn't normally associate with.

  And to think they will be stuck with each other forever in a paradise earth. At least they will have a thousand years to reach perfection. Maybe at the end of that thousand years they will like each other. If they've not killed each other in the mean time.