I have 3 daughters who hate me and 2 grandchilden banned from seeing me. Having a sh*t day now. (page 3)

ABibleStudent

I'm sorry Amelia Ashton for the actions of your daughter. All is not lost. You just need to start feeling better first.

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

Lozhasleft

Some lovely encouragement on this thread that applies to so many of us. I hope it's helping you dear Amelia.

Loz x

Pickler

Im sorry amelia, if you were on my side of the world I'd bring you a hot chocolate

and a cupcake...and a flower..... I hope your sh*t day improves....

eva luna

Dear Amelia,

After reading Nuggets post, I see there is more to the story than 3 kids hating you. Alot more.

Stay close to your good , stable friend. She knows you . Take her up on that visit, even if you want to be by yourself.

Take care of yourself first.

eva

Mum

One day those grandchildren are likely to start asking questions about why they never see their grandmother.

My daughter and I were estranged for a time, but there came a day when she needed me. There's no substitute for Mom. Take it one day at a time. Be patient, be loving, and be there for them.

Regards,

SandraC

It is impossible not to care, but as adults we can't control anyone else's emotions, or the emotions they choose to show, and we are not responsible for those emotions. It is not possible to make anyone happy or sad. It's important to stay emotionally on an 'even keel', and while still caring, not be too affected by the actions of others. Sometimes it's best to just 'let go' and get on with life, ourselves.

ÁrbolesdeArabia

Dear Mrs Ashton, why are the being so haggish to you my dear? Use this thread to rant, rave and ramble here. We are here for you Mrs Ashton!

Amelia Ashton

Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone who posted, e-mailed and sent PMs.

I am feeling battered and bruised today but ready to carry on.

You guys prove over and over again what wonderful people you are and sometimes I feel like a total fraud coming here and that I don't deserve your support because I wasn't a born-in nor abused and I was the only person in my family that was ever involved with JWs and it was my choice to get involved.

I feel my girls are justified in hating me for denyng them a proper childhood with xmas and birthdays etc. Forcing them to meetings, field service and assemblies.

At least they have successful happy lives now and I didn't ruin their potential for finding fulfillment in their work and marriages. Even the youngest is at college studying so will hopefully succeed in life too.

They don't need me or want me and some days it is harder to accept than others, especially with all the other uncertainties going on in my life at the moment.

Thank you all once again for getting me through such a horrible day.

Lots of love

Amelia xxx

rip van winkle

Dear Amelia- I'm so glad that you are feeling better today, although your pain is evident. You are a very strong person and I'm very proud of your courage to ask for support. And you are not a fraud!!! We who were not born-in have also suffered from the CULT.

I hope your children will forgive you one day, Amelia. Please FORGIVE yourself Amelia for your mistakes. All parents make mistakes. You wanted to bring your children up to love and serve God. Your intentions were good. I cannot accept you accepting 100% blame for your children being justified in hating you. If you were indifferent to their hurt, that would be a different story. You obviously have suffered a great deal just from the guilt that you feel. I am so sorry for your hurt, Amelia.

You were indoctrinated into a CULT, Amelia. You think you were making choices of your own free , but you were under mind control. Amelia, please forgive yourself and treat yourself the same way you would treat someone upon hearing their story, with kindness, compassion and understanding.

Amelia, lots of Love to you!!

"Rip"

cantleave

I don't deserve your support because I wasn't a born-in nor abused and I was the only person in my family that was ever involved with JWs and it was my choice to get involved.

Amelia - Knowing the shit you went through when you were in the cult you need to be on here, probably more than most.......

I have 3 daughters who hate me and 2 grandchilden banned from seeing me. Having a sh*t day now.