Hi Steve and WELCOME. I do understand how you feel. Our family has been thru hell with elders. I'll let you in a little secret that has helped me these past 6 months. People only have power over you if you ALLOW them to. I also understand about the 'conditional' love in the organization.
You may have some difficult days ahead, but just remember you do have friends here that have been thru some rough times and understand what you're going thru.
Feel free to ask any questions and make use of the 'search' button above where you will find just about every subject you can think of.
Peace be with you in your journey to find the real truth and your future Mrs.