Hi Mike. I can't imagine all the feelings you are experiencing right now and the thoughts. I'm so glad you have Coco by your side. He's a very cherished member here on our forum. I will send messages to the far reaches of the universe for you.
This is a book I find fascinating and many have found very comforting when facing the kinds of things you are. I mean the people themselves and their families and friends. It is written by a pediatric neurosurgeon named Melvin Morse. If it looks interesting, maybe Coco can read it with you.
http://www.amazon.com/Closer-Light-Melvin-Morse/dp/0804108323