Thank you for sharing. Your focus should now be on your son. Get him un-indoctrinated.
Belated Intro to Rubadubdub. My hubby lurked on JWN for the first time last night!
by rubadubdub 28 Replies latest jw experiences
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maninthemiddle
Welcome, amazing story.
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mouthy
Welcome Rub. Thanks for sharing. These are the posts that I read & thank Jesus Christ for.
I made 10 ppeople Jehovahs Witness( some of my family who still dont talk to me)
But your post made me feel HOPE!!!!!Thanks Again -
clarity
Ruba ... your story tugs at the heart strings, as so many do.
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Your determination & inner strength will see you thru I'm sure.
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Congrats to you & mr Ruba(hi to you), great that you are 'together'
in a wonderful new life!
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"EVERY decision I made in my life was based on this Lie"
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This very thing...has caused so much grief for so many for too long!
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This organization needs to be shut down!!!!!!!!
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Looking forward to hearing more from you both
clarity
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rubadubdub
Wow, Lisa Rose! We did live parralel lives! And yes, I also tried to hang in there and make it work. After all one of the ultimate hooks they have in you is the guilt trip-- you have to stay and be the shining light. How will your family ever know to come back to Jehovah if you leave too? Glad to hear you are thriving. Starting life over at age 52 was huge for me. I have one dub friend who I love dearly. We still have lunch about once a month, and I am fully aware that I need to be very careful about what I say. She has to believe the Lie, because she wants to see her brother in paradise. I don't see her giving up that hope. We live in a very small community, and I don't want to deal with the shunning. I am not DF'd and I will not DA. I am pleasant when I see dubs in town. So far, I have not been shunned. I won't hang my head in shame should that happen, but I'd rather not deal with it. My husband is approaching retirement age, and we will not be retiring here!
Mouthy! Big Hugs! Never give up hope. I was an all-in dub until my moment of clarity. I struggled with doctrinal issues for decades. I even wrote to Bethel about them and knew their responses were crap. I so wish I had saved those letters! My first reaction to the over-lapping generation doctrinal change was, "That's Crap!". Also, I witnessed gross mistreatment of people and destruction of people's lives, including my own son's before I woke up.
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rubadubdub
Problemaddict, I am open to any suggestons. I offered to send my son a copy of Crisis of Conscience, and he declined. I told him about jwfacts.org. His peers that left or were kicked out around the same time as he was were to him the stereotypical "mentally diseased apostates." All sex, drugs, tattoos, piercings and heavy metal. My son does have an amazing tattoo though!
Clarity, We have to hold on to the hope that at some time things will reach a tipping point. It's only a matter of time. 2014 is fast approaching. I wonder how many will throw in the towel.
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cobaltcupcake
Hi Rubbity!
I laughed when I read about your hubby leaving on "the Mayflower." My ex did the same thing. May 1976.
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Quandry
Aren't you glad to be yourself and not trying to please the WTS anymore?
I was "in" for over thirty years and try not to be too bitter about all the wasted time, but to enjoy time without frantically having to get ready for meetings or service and studying gobbledy-gook in the WT and trying to make sense of it.
Hopefully your son will read some information such as C of C and will be freed from the clutches of the WTS also.
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rubadubdub
Quandry and Problemaddict, You both got me thinking about my son, so I gave him a call. We chatted for over an hour. He is really not at all interested in anything dub related and asked why I keep bringing it up. I was honest and told him that I'm concerned that since he is lonely, he might want to return to what feels safe and familiar. I told him I so regret raising him in a cult. He said, "They think they know how people should live their lives, and it just doesn't work in the real world." He assured me again that he has no intention of ever going back, and should it even cross his mind, he will call me first. He restated that he just doesn't see that ever happening, and that I should stop worrying about such unrealistic things. I told him his Dad is starting to look at some Ex-JW forums just to plant that little seed again. He said he's thinking of coming up for a visit before his busy season gets in high gear! That made me so happy!
And yes, Quandry, I love not being accountable to the WTB$ and running full tilt just to keep up with all the demands. Also, I don't intend to wear either nylons or high heals ever again for the rest of my life! Someone just told me that I always look so nice, that she just loves the way I use color so beautifully. I love the new me! I was such a drab dub! When I think of how many times a day I had to change my clothes when I was a dub, it makes my head spin!
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
"Welcome" to both of you!