Comments You Will Not Hear at the 03-31-2013 WT Study (JANUARY 15, 2013, pages )(ELDERS FELLOW WORKERS)
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CHRISTIAN ELDERS
‘FELLOW WORKERS
FOR OUR JOY’
“We are fellow workers
for your joy.”
—2 COR. 1:24.
LOOK FOR THE ANSWERS:
How did Paul demonstrate that
he was not a ‘master over his
brothers’ faith’ but a ‘fellow
worker for their joy’?
In what ways do Christian elders
contribute to the joy of their
fellow believers?
How might all of us add to the
spirit of joy in the congregation?
OPENING COMMENTS
Will the WTS use David as an example in every article? A murderer and an adulterer.
This was a difficult article for me…all the right words for elders, things that I would hope they would see they needed to do only to see the same old things, the elders who were bullies, the ones who were cowards, and the people who suffered.
1. What caused Paul to rejoice over the Christians in Corinth?
IT WAS the year 55 C.E. The apostle Paul was in the
harbor city of Troas, but he could not stop thinking
about Corinth. Earlier that year, it had pained him
to learn that the brothers there quarreled among
themselves. So out of fatherly concern, he had sent
a letter to correct them. (1 Cor. 1:11; 4:15) He had
also sent his fellow worker Titus to them and had
arranged for Titus to report back to him in Troas.
Now Paul was waiting for Titus in Troas, longing to
hear how the Corinthians were faring. But to Paul’s
deep disappointment, Titus did not arrive. What
could Paul do? He sailed to Macedonia, and to his
joy, there they met. Titus related that the brothers in
Corinth had responded well to Paul’s letter and that
they were yearning to see him. When Paul heard
that good report, he “rejoiced yet more.”—2 Cor. 2:
12, 13; 7:5-9.
COMMENTS
What had the “brothers” quarreled about? In the over 20 congregations in my career, the biggest problems lay with the elders and their families not getting along with others and each other. Fights a elder meetings at the top of their lungs; the CO having to call in elders from other congregations to referee; elder’s wives that had not been in the same car group, book study, or same row at the KH for over 20 years.
*** w91 3/1 pp. 21-23 “Seek Peace and Pursue It” ***
Peace With Our Brothers
7 ‘Minding the flesh’ can destroy not only our peace with God but also our good relationship with other Christians. Paul wrote to the Corinthians: “You are yet fleshly. For whereas there are jealousy and strife among you, are you not fleshly and are you not walking as men do?” (1 Corinthians 3:3) Jealousy and strife are the very opposite of peace.
8 Disturbing the peace of the congregation by causing jealousy and strife is very serious. Speaking of a quality related to peace as a fruit of the spirit, the apostle John warned: “If anyone makes the statement: ‘I love God,’ and yet is hating his brother, he is a liar. For he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot be loving God, whom he has not seen.” (1 John 4:20) In a similar way, if an individual causes jealousy or strife among brothers, can he really be at peace with God? Surely not! We are urged: “Continue to rejoice, to be readjusted, to be comforted, to think in agreement, to live peaceably; and the God of love and of peace will be with you.” (2 Corinthians 13:11) Yes, if we continue to live peaceably with one another, then the God of love and peace will be with us.
9 This does not mean that there will never be misunderstandings between Christians. In the weeks following Pentecost, there was a disagreement in the young Christian congregation about the daily food distribution. (Acts 6:1) On one occasion a disagreement between Paul and Barnabas led to “a sharp burst of anger.” (Acts 15:39) Paul had to counsel Euodia and Syntyche, doubtless fine, zealous sisters, “to be of the same mind in the Lord.” (Philippians 4:2) No wonder Jesus gave detailed advice on how to solve disturbances of the peace between Christians and highlighted the urgency of handling such problems promptly! (Matthew 5:23-25; 18:15-17) He would not have given this counsel if he did not anticipate difficulties among his followers.
10 Today, then, it is quite possible that someone may be offended by a tactless word or a perceived slight from a fellow Christian. A characteristic in one person may intensely irritate another. Personalities may clash. Someone may strongly disagree with a decision of the elders. On the body of elders itself, one elder may be very strong-minded and try to override the other elders. Despite the fact that such things happen, we still have to seek peace and pursue it. The challenge is to handle these problems in a Christian way so as to preserve “the uniting bond of peace.”—Ephesians 4:3.
2. (a) What did Paul write to the Corinthians about faith and
joy? (b) What questions will we consider?
2 Shortly thereafter, Paul wrote the Corinthians a
second letter. He told them: “Not that we are the
masters over your faith, but we are fellow workers
for your joy, for it is by your faith that you are standing.”
(2 Cor. 1:24) What did Paul mean by that? And
how should those words affect Christian elders today?
COMMENTS
Not masters; could a woman ever point out serious errors? Elders are called princes, chieftains, and sheikhs by the WTS. That the rank and file be obedient and submissive to the elders…not masters? What scriptural principle is violated if a brother has a beard?
*** w94 10/1 p. 20 par. 20 Shepherding God’s Flock With Love ***
Jehovah has given us much freedom within the bounds of his laws and principles. Thus elders should avoid setting rules where Scriptural principles are not violated. And they should resist any tendency to offer their own personal opinions as dogma or to let their ego get in the way if someone disagrees with such views.—2 Corinthians 3:17; 1 Peter 2:16.
OUR FAITH AND OUR JOY
3. (a) What did Paul mean when he wrote: “By your faith . . .
you are standing”? (b) How do elders today follow Paul’s example?
3 Paul mentioned two vital aspects of our worship
—faith and joy. Recall that regarding faith, he wrote:
“Not that we are the masters over your faith, . . .
for it is by your faith that you are standing.”
With these words, Paul acknowledged
that the brothers in Corinth stood
firm, not because of him or any other human,
but because of their own faith in
God. Hence, Paul saw no need to control
the faith of his brothers, and he had
no desire to do so. He was confident
that they were faithful Christians who
wanted to do what was right. (2 Cor.
2:3) Today, elders follow Paul’s example
by expressing confidence in their
brothers’ faith and motives for serving
God. (2 Thess. 3:4) Rather than making
rigid rules for the congregation, elders
rely on Scriptural principles and direction
from Jehovah’s organization. After
all, present-day elders are not the masters
over their brothers’ faith.—1 Pet. 5:
2, 3.
COMMENTS
So did the elders have confidence that you were a faithful Christian and wanted to do what was right?
Did they express confidence in your faith and motives? Or were they more like Job’s false friends?
*** w06 8/15 p. 28 par. 16 “You Have Heard of the Endurance of Job” ***
Elihu’s wise counsel contrasts with the hurtful words of Eliphaz, Bildad, and Zophar. “You men have not spoken concerning me what is truthful,” Jehovah told them. (Job 42:7) Even if they claimed that they had had good intentions, they acted as tools of Satan rather than as faithful companions. All three assumed from the outset that Job himself was to blame for his calamities. (Job 4:7, 8; 8:6; 20:22, 29) According to Eliphaz, God has no confidence in his servants, and it does not matter to Him if we are righteous or not. (Job 15:15; 22:2, 3) Eliphaz even accused Job of errors he had not committed. (Job 22:5, 9)
Rigid rules: were you every told that to pray at the KH you must stand, bow your head, say “amen” audibly, counseling others in prayer, who can pray.
*** w90 5/15 p. 12 par. 10 Fear Jehovah, the Hearer of Prayer ***
Like Cornelius, anyone today progressing toward dedication may be encouraged to pray. But an individual who is insincere about studying the Scriptures, does not know the divine requirements for prayer, and has not yet displayed an attitude pleasing to God cannot be said to fear Jehovah, have faith, or be earnestly seeking him. Such a person is not in position to offer prayers acceptable to God.
4. (a) What did Paul mean when he wrote:
“We are fellow workers for your joy”? (b) How
do elders today imitate Paul’s attitude?
4 Paul also stated: “We are fellow
workers for your joy.” With that expression,
he referred to himself and his close
associates. Why do we draw that conclusion?
Well, in the same letter, Paul reminded
the Corinthians of two of these
associates when he wrote: “Jesus . . . was
preached among you through us, that is,
through me and Silvanus and Timothy.”
(2 Cor. 1:19) Moreover, whenever Paul
used the term “fellow workers” in his
letters, it always referred to his close associates,
such as Apollos, Aquila, Prisca,
Timothy, Titus, and others. (Rom. 16:
3, 21; 1 Cor. 3:6-9; 2 Cor. 8:23) Hence,
by saying: “We are fellow workers for
your joy,” Paul assured the Corinthians
that he and his companions wanted to
do all they could to promote the joy of
all members of the congregation. Today,
Christian elders have the same desire.
They want to do all they can to help their
brothers to “serve Jehovah with rejoicing.”—
Ps. 100:2; Phil. 1:25.
COMMENTS
So what does this mean, that the elders only view their close associates as fellow workers? Who helps the elders? Are the rank and file are too lowly.
So other than a walk-by hello and how are you; did the elders show they have the same desire? Do they know your name and the name of your spouse and children? Do they know where you live, your phone number? Have they ever worked d2d with you, had you over to their house, accepted your invitation to your house?
5. We will consider the responses to what
question, and on what should we reflect?
5 Recently, a group of zealous brothers
and sisters living in different parts
of the world were invited to respond to
the question, “What words and deeds of
an elder have added to your joy?” As we
now consider the observations made by
that group of fellow believers, see how
their comments compare with how you
might have responded. Furthermore, let
all of us reflect on how we may contribute
to a spirit of joy in our local congregation.*
*The same brothers and sisters were also asked,
“Which quality do you value the most in an elder?”
The overwhelming majority of them answered, “Being
approachable.” That important quality will be
considered in an upcoming issue of this journal.
COMMENTS
I wonder if they judged “zealous” as hours reported? What about the sister with 4 children and an “unbelieving” husband who still manages to get out twice a month?
Fellow believers = only jws
Were the elders approachable in your congregations---based on what?
“GREET PERSIS OUR BELOVED ONE”
6, 7. (a) What is one way in which elders can
imitate Jesus, Paul, and other servants of
God? (b) Why does remembering our brothers’
names add to their joy?
6 Many of our brothers and sisters say
that their joy is enhanced when elders
show personal interest in them. One basic
way in which elders do so is by following
the example set by David, Elihu,
and Jesus himself. (Read 2 Samuel
9:6; Job 33:1; Luke 19:5.) Each of these
servants of Jehovah showed sincere interest
in another person by using the
individual’s name. Paul too appreciated
the importance of remembering and using
the names of fellow believers. He
concluded one of his letters by greeting
more than 25 brothers and sisters by
name, including Persis, a Christian sister
about whom Paul said: “Greet Persis
our beloved one.”—Rom. 16:3-15.
COMMENTS
David knew Uriah’s name and his wife’s---that did not end well.
Remember the elders have know you and others for many years, well, at least you occupied space in the same KH…
7 Some elders have a hard time
remembering names. Still, when they
make a real effort to do so, they are, in
effect, telling their fellow believers, ‘You
are important to me.’ (Ex. 33:17) Elders
will particularly add to their brothers’
joy when they remember their names as
they call on them for comments during
the Watchtower Study or other meetings.
—Compare John 10:3.
COMMENTS
So the WTS is saying then that many elders do not make a real effort to know your name or the names of your children. One CO had all the children in the congregation (under 18) get on the stage with him and introduced all 25 by name. It was his first visit and he was over 60. Could the elders in your congregation do the same. Do they know the appearance of the flock? (Also, people call on the audience using BR/SR last name…after 25 years some still don’t know the first name of people)
“SHE PERFORMED MANY
LABORS IN THE LORD”
8. What was one important way in which Paul
followed the example set by Jehovah and Jesus?
8 Paul also showed his interest in others
by giving sincere commendation,
which is another basic way to enhance
the joy of fellow believers. Thus, in the
same letter in which he stated his desire
to work for his brothers’ joy, Paul wrote:
“I have great boasting in regard to you.”
(2 Cor. 7:4) Those words of commendation
must have warmed the heart of the
brothers in Corinth. Paul expressed similar
sentiments to other congregations.
(Rom. 1:8; Phil. 1:3-5; 1 Thess. 1:8) In
fact, after he mentioned Persis in his letter
to the congregation in Rome, Paul
added: “She performed many labors in
the Lord.” (Rom. 16:12) How heartening
that compliment must have been for
that faithful sister! In commending others,
Paul followed the example set by
both Jehovah and Jesus.—Read Mark 1:
9-11; John 1:47; Rev. 2:2, 13, 19.
COMMENTS
What does the WTS tell elders to do regarding commendation?
My experiences were that an elder who rarely if ever said hello, would suddenly come up and commend you in a non-specific way (stumbling over your name) and then counsel you on something they have yet to confirm, info from an unknown to you, and nameless from the elder. And then you realize that this guy never talks to you except to give an ambiguous commendation and then an unfounded counseling.
*** w92 4/15 p. 25 ‘Exhorting on the Basis of Love’ ***
Similarly today, counsel or advice can often be cushioned with sincere, warm commendation. And such counsel should be, not blunt or tactless, but generously “seasoned with salt” so as to be more palatable to the listener.
*** w08 9/15 p. 29 par. 7 Highlights From the Letters to the Thessalonians and to Timothy ***
An effective way to give counsel is to mix due commendation with encouragement to do better.
*** w69 6/1 p. 344 Do You Get the Point? ***
It is not difficult to know when some counsel is forthcoming. In the first place, you may be aware of something that has taken place in your life that might require some correction. Then, too, it is not every day that an overseer invites you to sit down for a “little chat.” A good counselor will usually preface his words of correction with some merited praise or commendation. So if this happens to you, while you should not become immediately suspicious and think the praise is insincere, keep in mind that a few valuable suggestions may follow. Prepare to accept them humbly.
9. Why does giving and receiving commendation
add to a spirit of joy in the congregation?
9 Elders today also see the importance
of putting their feelings of appreciation
for their brothers into words. (Prov. 3:
27; 15:23) Whenever an elder does that,
he tells his brothers, in effect: ‘I noticed
what you did. I care about you.’ And
fellow believers definitely need to hear
the elders’ reassuring words. A sister in
her mid-50’s spoke for many when she
said: “At work I seldom get a compliment.
There’s a cold and competitive climate.
So when an elder commends me
for something I’ve done for the congregation,
it’s so refreshing, so energizing!
It makes me feel loved by my heavenly
Father.”A brother who as a single parent
is raising two children felt similarly. An
elder recently gave him heartfelt commendation.
How did it affect our brother?
He says: “The elder’s words gave me
a real boost!” Indeed, by sincerely commending
fellow believers, an elder lifts
their spirit and deepens their joy. That,
in turn, will give them added strength to
keep on walking on the road to life “and
not tire out.”—Isa. 40:31.
COMMENTS
Argh, elders never have time to talk to anyone at the meetings let alone a sister in her 50’s. They only talk with other elders at best. I remember the WT Study conductor “commending” me for my comments but could not remember a single point I made. Or the elder who would say “how are you” on the run not waiting to hear my answer. Or the elder who could come up and say that a nameless someone in the congregation was offended because I missed too many meetings (I had been in the hospital and home recovering) but it seems the elder was unaware of these vital facts. No apology from him or who was so offended so I could follow the Matthew 18 policy.
How many elders did you know that gave “heartfelt” commendations?
“SHEPHERD THE
CONGREGATION OF GOD”
10, 11. (a) How can elders follow the example
set by Nehemiah? (b)What will help an elder to
impart a spiritual gift when making shepherding
calls?
10 What is an especially vital way in
which elders show personal interest in
their brothers and add to the congregation’s
joy? By taking the initiative
to reach out to those who need encouragement.
(Read Acts 20:28.) When elders
do so, they imitate spiritual shepherds
of old. Note, for instance, what the
faithful overseer Nehemiah did when
he saw that some of his Jewish brothers
had grown spiritually weak. The account
states that he immediately rose up
and encouraged them. (Neh. 4:14) Today,
elders want to do the same. They
‘rise up’—take the initiative—to help fellow
believers to be firm in faith. To give
such personal encouragement, they visit
their brothers and sisters in their homes
if circumstances allow. During such
shepherding visits, they want to “impart
some spiritual gift” to them. (Rom. 1:11)
What will help elders to do so?
COMMENTS
When do elders “reach out,” when they have to nitpick.
Yes, the elders visit unannounced, without making an appointment, at their convenience not that of the publisher.
*** w96 3/15 p. 26 How Christian Shepherds Serve You ***
Suggestions for Shepherding Calls
? Make an appointment: It is usually good to make an appointment. If the elder plans to handle a serious problem, it would be proper to inform the publisher of this beforehand.
I know of 3 pairs of elders whose idea of “encouragement” was to throw down a photocopy of an article on the topic for you to read later.
11 Prior to making a shepherding visit,
an elder needs to take some time to
think about the individual he will visit.
What are the person’s challenges? What
thoughts could build him or her up?
What scripture or experience of a Bible
character would be applicable to his
or her circumstances? Such forethought
will help an elder to have a conversation
that will be meaningful, not trivial. During
shepherding visits, an elder allows
his brothers and sisters to express themselves
while he listens attentively. (Jas. 1:19)
One sister said: “It’s so comforting
when an elder listens with his heart.”
—Luke 8:18.
COMMENTS
Is this the same elder who can’t remember their first name, doesn’t have access to their phone number or address who has never exchanged for than “hello, how are you” not waiting for the response; the elder who prepares by photocopying an article, who starts with a meaningless, short commendation before launching into the real purpose, to point out all the flaws of the individual, without proof or “scriptural” basis. Who stops listening as soon as you start disagreeing with the negative assessment.
12. Who in the congregation are in need of encouragement,
and why?
12 Who will benefit from receiving
shepherding visits? Paul admonished
his fellow Christian elders to “pay
attention . . . to all the flock.” Indeed, all
members of the congregation need to
receive encouragement, including those
publishers and pioneers who have faithfully
been carrying out their ministry
year after year. Why do they need the
support of spiritual shepherds? Because
sometimes such spiritually strong ones
too are nearly overwhelmed by the pressures
exerted by this wicked world. To
illustrate why even a strong servant of
God may, at times, need help from a
companion, let us consider an event in
King David’s life.
COMMENTS
Do all the flock get a visit or only deemed problems by the BOE?
The WTS has said that if the elders spent more time shepherding they might spend less time df’ing.
So do the elders have the authority to forgive a murderer or do they have to turn them over to the police?
PICTURE: Preparation helps an elder to ‘impart a spiritual gift’ on a shepherding visit
“ABISHAI . . . CAME TO HIS HELP”
13. (a) Ishbi-benob exploited what condition
of David? (b) How was Abishai able to come to
David’s rescue?
13 Shortly after young David had been
anointed as king, he stood face-to-face
with Goliath, one of the Rephaim, a race
of giants. Courageous David killed the
giant. (1 Sam. 17:4, 48-51; 1 Chron. 20:
5, 8) Years later, during a battle with
the Philistines, David again stood face-to-
face with a giant. His name was
Ishbi-benob, also one of the Rephaim.
(2 Sam. 21:16; ftn.) This time, however,
the giant nearly killed David. Why? Not
because David had lost his courage but
because he had lost his strength. The
record states: “David grew tired.” As
soon as Ishbi-benob noticed David’s moment
of physical weakness, he “got to
think of striking David down.” But then,
just before the giant thrust his weapon
into David, “at once, Abishai the son of
Zeruiah came to his [David’s] help and
struck the Philistine down and put him
to death.” (2 Sam. 21:15-17) What a narrow
escape! How grateful David must
have been that Abishai had kept an eye
on him and had quickly come to his aid
when his life was in danger! What lessons
can we draw from this account?
COMMENTS
So David had lost his physical strength…is that a requirement for elders today?
Who was Abishai?
14. (a) How are we able to conquer Goliathlike
challenges? (b) How can elders help others regain
their strength and joy? Give an example.
14 Worldwide, we as Jehovah’s people
are carrying out our ministry despite
the obstacles that Satan and his agents
place in our path. Some of us have
stood face-to-face with giant challenges,
but with full reliance on Jehovah, we
took on those “Goliaths” and conquered
them. However, at times, the constant
battle against the pressures of this world
leaves us tired and discouraged. In that
weakened condition, we are vulnerable
and in danger of being ‘struck down’
by pressures we otherwise would have
dealt with successfully. At such moments,
the timely support given by an elder
can help us to regain our joy and our
strength, as many have experienced. A
pioneer in her mid-60’s related: “Some
time ago, I did not feel well, and field
service tired me out. An elder noticed
my lack of energy and approached me.
We had an encouraging conversation
based on a Bible passage. I applied the
suggestions he gave me, and I benefited.”
She added: “How loving of that elder
to take note of my weak condition
and to give me help!” Yes, it is heartening
to know that we have elders who
keep a loving eye on us and who, much
like Abishai of old, stand ready to ‘come
to our help.’
COMMENTS
Full reliance on Jesus?
Abishai helped kill Abner and David had those who killed him executed by Solomon because of the bloodguilt.
So did this elder know that it was not a medical condition? How many have had elders and other jws give medical advice?
“KNOW THE LOVE THAT
I HAVE . . . FOR YOU”
15, 16. (a) Why was Paul dearly loved by his
fellow believers? (b) Why do we love our caring
congregation elders?
15 Being a shepherd involves hard
work. At times, elders spend sleepless
nights in prayerful concern for God’s
flock or in giving spiritual support to fellow
believers. (2 Cor. 11:27, 28) Still, elders
carry out their responsibility fully
and gladly, just as Paul did. He wrote to
the Corinthians: “I will most gladly
spend and be completely spent for your
souls.” (2 Cor. 12:15) Indeed, out of love
for his brothers, Paul fully spent himself
in strengthening them. (Read 2 Corinthians
2:4; Phil. 2:17; 1 Thess. 2:8) No
wonder the brothers dearly loved Paul!
—Acts 20:31-38.
COMMENTS
When I had a close relative dying, no support from the BOE, why, because they weren’t a jw. Or elders up all night stalking a jw who has been reported having someone of the opposite sex overnight.
Elders who say they will die for you but don’t have 3 minutes to make a phone call.
16 We as God’s servants today also
love our caring Christian elders and
thank Jehovah in our personal prayers
for providing them. They add to our joy
by showing personal interest in us. We
feel enriched by their shepherding visits.
Moreover, we are grateful that they
stand ready to come to our aid at moments
when we feel overwhelmed by
the pressures of this world. Yes, such attentive
Christian elders truly are ‘fellow
workers for our joy.’
COMMENTS
God’s servants = only jws
Caring Christian elders = 1 out of ten
Personal interest = but not knowing first name, address, phone number, names of children and spouse, (or knowing I was in the hospital and rehabbing).
CONCLUDING COMMENTS
NEXT WEEK, This is Our Spiritual Heritage.
As to this article, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
Love, Blondie