Liberty,
I believe the problem with religion is not so much a problem with the beliefs themselves, but the individuals that EXPECT so much out of it. That's the mistake the JWs make. That when you become a JW, all your problems will naturally go away because you are now part of God's Modern Day Borganization. We all know that's not true.
I am a Christian that believes God gave me a brain. The purpose of that brain is in part for me to make my own decisions and discern what is best for myself.
I look at God as a parent, not so much as a big entity in the sky. A good parent isn't always going to bail their kids out of trouble. They will teach their child that they must live with the consequences of their decisions - some good, some bad. They also teach their child that Life is not fair...sometimes you live with the consequences of other people's decisions - some good, some bad. Sometimes we're just innocent bystanders. By getting angry that God is controlling (or not controlling) every little whim of the universe to me is a cop-out. To those people I say, "Take control of your life yourself. Why sit on your ass and wait for a handout?"
I don't expect God to solve the issues I have in my life. Yes, I'm a Christian, but I DO NOT believe He will bail me out of every bad situation or that He has given me every good situation. But I do believe the promise laid out in the Bible that there is something better later. One of these days I can have that promise. But for now, my mandate is to 1. Love God 2. Love people 3. Live my life to the best of my ability.
Let's say I'm wrong and there is no "promise". I've still lived a pretty good life by loving people and living my life to the best of my ability. See...not all of us Christians are Fundy-Bible thumpers! Even some that go to SBC!
Andi