they know what they are doing, they are not victims
That was not my intent, to paint anyone as a victim. Indeed, it was the opposite. Freeing oneself from the JW mindset comes quickly to some, and takes longer for others. It's not easy. However, we are each responsible for our own actions, and there is no excuse for mean, condescending behaviour. Understanding where it comes from, though, can be helpful in dealing with it. That's all.
xo
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