He called me a week or two ago offering 'assistance' and told me he'd pop by some time with 'a packet of biscuits' and I told him to ring before he came so as not to show up unannounced. We went out yesterday, and this morning I find a little business card-sized calling card obviously printed up on MS Word and cut with scissors. On it is printed, "Sorry I missed you," and has his name and number, and the scripture from Romans saying something about an interchange of encouragement.
Pretty inoccuous right? But for some reason it really stressed me out. I was explaining to my husband and he said, "It's just a card..." and I got all tangled up trying to explain that I told them to leave me alone and how come no one else from the congregation calls or visits, just the elders?
I want to explain to him how even a little card like that is part of the hounding and control, but can't muster the right words. Mind you, my husband has stopped attending meetings too, but I think it's because he doesn't want me to stress out. And he's growing a beard and hasn't had a haircut.