As a diabetic, I am sensitive to balance, the yin and yang of life. In relationships, we have the opposing needs of belonging and independence. If we defend a group fiercely at the expense of the individual, we have lost the balance, and a person is hurt. At the other end of the spectrum, we have anarchy. Ask Albania what that is like.
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