When I first started on here, I was shocked by how so many ex-JWs became atheists. To me it was as if their biterness towards the JWs was being taken out on god. Then I became an atheist myself. And I realize it was a natural progression of questioning. I realized I had been duped into believing nonsense for years. I didn't want to be duped again. Religiously, I wasn't going to take anything for granted, I was going to use a critical eye. In examining the bible with a critical eye, I discovered it was nonsense. Not to mention science showing us many things couldn't have happened as described. Then I understood.
And from the perspective of reason, I am still a bit shocked that ex-JWs have turned to other religions.
As far as personalities and love? Freedom from the cult and from religion means we don't have to put on a different personality, we can be ourselves. We also don't have to love everyone. Some people aren't deserving of our consideration.
Also, this is an online forum full of mostly anonymous people. In anonymity and online, people will be much bolder with their words thant hey would ever say to someone's face.