So, my husband would not even meet the elders who just happened to drop by this morning. (page 4)

Julia Orwell

So true Blondie. Can't wait til we move in 1.5 years (that's the plan, we wanna be home owners!) No Jw will know where we live and we will never have a surprise visit again! My husband can grow a beard like Santa's if he wants to.

HarryMac

The beard is always a good sign. Seems like a bit of a rite of passage for men to get some fuzz on the face for a while.

....hhmm... people didn't keep trying to visit me that way. Suddenly I'm feeling less popular.

Julia Orwell

You're lucky.

blondie

Just remember Julia, if you give your address to any jw family or even inactive jws, they might think they are doing you a favor to either give it to the currect BOE or contact a new congregation where you move to. Be aware that Google and other searches like White Pages are good at finding addresses and phone numbers. I do it all the time to find claimants.

We drove through our old neighborhood yesterday and were stunned at all the new houses compared to last year. It was really bleak for awhile. So good success on your plans. My husband grew a beard because he looks good in it. He always tries to greet any jws he encounters away from home but we do not tolerate unannounced visits by anyone. We just say it is not a convenient time for us and the polite thing would be to call first.

gorgia2

Julia,

Well done to you and your husband!

gorgia x

Julia Orwell

Blondie, that's exactly what I told them!

Thanks all for your support- this journey is not over!!!!!!

jookbeard

best way, for the future it might be an idea to remind them that in under no circumstances whatsoever do they call around uninvited.

lisavegas420

I've been out so long now that it just seems so weird.

No other "organzation" that I can think of would send the bigwigs to your house to hound you about leaving.
If I belonged to any other "group" and I quit attending their "meetings" they wouldn't shun me or stop being my friend.

Thank goodness the Watchtower hasn't set up an autowithdrawal from the rank and files checking accounts. I don't even want to imagine the hoops you would have to jump though to have it stopped.

Also..why don't JW's seem to stay in contact with each other when they change congrations? We moved several times growing up, new congo, new people, and the others seemed to be forgotten about unless we happened to run into them at an assembly. When we move across states, we never saw or heard from then again.

tiki

yep - my beloved spouse sports a beard these days too! i just don't get why they insist on bugging you so frequently, julia-o.....i would avoid them, not answer the door, ignore them.....they must get the message eventually.

fresh prince of ohio

One of them I know is a really nice guy, a convert like me who's been in about the same length of time as i was. I really hope he wakes up. He hasn't been an elder that long.

He will soon realize that these "encouragement" visits are more for sniffing out the slightest bit of apostacy or other such wrongdoing™ than anything. How these guys lovvvve to read off a name or two from the platform from time to time. If your goal is to fade out of the bOrg without Da'ing or getting Df'd, then prepare for many more unannounced visits and other attempts to "encourage" you and find out if you still believe in the org.

So, my husband would not even meet the elders who just happened to drop by this morning.

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