We Are Disgusting!

by LouBelle 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  LouBelle

  So this is a follow up to the thread started regarding the contact that some JW family members made through my aunt. They wanted funds to put my grandmother (Phylis) into an all inclusive old age home. They wanted contributions from my aunt and mother. This action showed how, in my mind, money seemingly has the power of resurrection. Debi and I have been dead to the JW family for over 8 years.

  My aunt had arranged that the JW family meet with her and Debi (my mother) face to face. Debi in the end had actually decided to contribute monthly funds, she would do this knowing that she would still be dead to the family and that she was just being used. I didn't agree with it but would support her decision.

  My aunt then phoned Phylis (the gran) to chat with her. The feedback I got back from Debi was in the end, Phylis told my aunt that she was disgusting and that she no longer wanted anything to do with her or her money. Phylis said she had sources that told her my aunt was visiting another church (this was denied) and that she never wants to speak to my aunt again. She also said she wants nothing to do with that apostate Debi and that apostate Louise.

  My aunt then phoned the JW aunt - who had the gall to then say that they had the forms for the home and my aunt could pick them up. My aunt stood her ground and said she will no longer contribute considering what had happend. Debi has also withdrawn her support in light of the conversation.

  I feel for my aunt because she didn't expect this - she wanted to help and was more than willing too. She has taken great care of her mother over the years, buying her treats, taking her on vacation, visiting her to make sure she is okay. This is how she gets treated and she is not disfellowshiped or disassociated, she just doesn't go to meetings.

  I am so proud of my aunt for standing up for herself. I have assured her that her real family (Me, my mother and my brother) will always be here for her and will always love her unconditionallly. I know she is going to have a tough journey ahead but we will be here to support and love her.

  Love you more aunt! **Luke**
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  cantleave

  I really hate this dispicable religion. I am so sorry you have to deal with crap from your family Lou.

  Angus xx
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  Julia Orwell

  Good on your aunt and you! The best thing you can do is support each other since you've been cast away by the 'most loving people in the world'.
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  FlyingHighNow

  Okay, so how is gramma gonna pay for her home?
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  LouBelle

  CantLeave - I was adament from the beginning I wasn't going to get involved - I am dead to them - they are strangers to me and I have no affection for them-yes harsh but the truth. I am sorry for my aunt.

  Julia - yes - my family is getting smaller - but rather that, with genuine people that love you.

  FHN - *shrug* Phylis can make her own plans now - she will not have anything to do with those that she deems as : disgusting and apostates. She wants nothing to do with any of us. Doesn't phase myself and my mum one bit. I know my aunt is hurt by this though.
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  laverite

  I'm sorry your aunt has been hurt by being treated this way. Hopefully, she will see it for what it is. The JW relatives have cut others off, thereby cutting off sources of financial help for your gran. They are reeping what they've sowed. The financial burden now will fall on them.

  They now have to deal with the situation they created. I'm so sad for them. Yeah, right.
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  zeb

  Laverite. Bulls eye!
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  *lost*

  whats that scripture ... better to eat vegetables with the poor in a love than feast with the rich hypocrites.
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  LouBelle

  It was also then said that this whole thing was going to be a suprise?????? Really, so why then would there be a meeting face to face with the grandmother (Phylis) included. We have 2 suspicions, 1. They were trying to source the funds and then move the grandmother into the facility and take the credit for it. 2. That this is/was a setup in order to get my aunt in front of 2 witnesses who would then question her JW status and go to the elders (this JW aunt and uncle were the two witnesses in my JC)

  oh and one other thing I am so proud of my aunt for. She told the JW family members that if she as so much hears that her name has been mentioned from the platform or they try to disfellowship her she will sue the WTBTS and the congregation for discrimination (because family will shun her) At this point the JW family member kept VERY quiet.

  Go aunt!!!!!
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  carla

  Why would active jw's accept money from so called apostates anyway?

  I know they do all the time but how do the elders & gb get around it? Apostates are on the level with satan, no? or practically, how can they spin it to be acceptable?

  hypocrites.

  Why can't apostates then turn it around on jw's? say an 'apostate' was in a terrible accident or something and needed to be in a home, why not get militant jw family to help support them?

  jw's always ask of others what they are not willing to do themselves.