Ok so my best friend fully knows TTATT and her JW parents have been inactive for years- why the hell does she still go to meetings!?

by Julia Orwell 16 Replies latest jw friends

  • Julia Orwell
    Julia Orwell

    She knows the religion is a lying, pedo-sheltering, man-made, self-serving institution and she's disgusted by the hypocrisy of the local brothers and sisters who treat her like a pariah because she's a disabled single mum whose 17 year old son has long hair and a beard. Oh and her JW parents are split up and have been inactive for years. Her kids have little interest in JWs as none of the other JW kids ever want to associate with them and it's been that way for years.

    So why is she still going to meetings when her disability allows her?! Why does she call the CO's massive guilt-trippin' pre-packaged talks 'spiritually uplifting' the day after she calls me and has a huge moan about TTATT and how crook the organisation is? I can't work people out.

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Hi Julia Orwell, Have you read Steve Hassan's books?

    In his books he talks about how members of dangerous cults have two personas. Their authentic persona and their cult persona. The WTBTS's indoctrination is so powerful that your friend's authentic persona wants to be free of the WTBTS, but does not know how because her cult persona is powerful enough that it will not allow her to see that she has options that will allow her to live a happy and healthier life. It is almost like if you were to wear colored glasses, the world would appear colored like your glasses, unless you realized that you are wearing colored glasses.

    If you want to help your friend, and do not feel that she will cause you any social harm, you could help your friend learn about Steve Hassan by either sending her a link to his website www.freedomofmind.com or sending her the link to a video of Steve Hassan's that I like "Steve Hassan explains SIA method to rescue loved ones from unhealthy situations (2003)". Also, it is possible that your friend has emotional issues that are not related to her being a JW.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

  • Julia Orwell
    Julia Orwell

    Thanks for the links. And yes Robert, you are very insightful: she has HUGE emotional issues not related to being a JW from her previous marriage.

    I might send her those links privately on Facebook. I had Steve Hassan's first book years ago but gave it to a JW friend and every time I ask for it back he has some excuse...I think he chucked it.

    Thanks for those links though :)

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Hi Julia Orwell, You are welcomed. Sending website/video links to friends is so much better than loaning out a book. I stopped loaning out books to friends, because I would either not get them back or I would get them back slightly damaged.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

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  • Julia Orwell
    Julia Orwell

    My poor friend. She has so many loving non-jw friends, and me the closet apostate.

  • HarryMac
    HarryMac

    Looking for love in all the wrong places, la, la, la, la...

    /dance

  • Julia Orwell
    Julia Orwell

    And I just found out she's 'studying' with a mature aged JW lady. After all her talk about TTATT....

  • HarryMac
    HarryMac

    Like I just stated in 'Guilty' thread, she's getting something out of it.

    What do you think that could be?

  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    Wifey is there as well. She wrinlles her nose at elders and doctrine, yet she makes 2-3 meetings a month. Hell if I know whats up

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