Thanks Jgnat,
I always get the scented candles that I like
I think I'll change to the ones that smell like food
jus' for him
Ain't that somethin', instead of a romantic scent
it'll be Ribs and Sweet potato pie.
Nostalgia for Family Past
by jgnat 19 Replies latest social current
-
-
-
*lost*
lol, good stuff.
nostlagia, for me, of family past is way different to the american shows.
It is memories of being out in the countryside, ponies and nature, adventures, activities, imagination and make believe,
of animals, hunting, fishing, shooting, making jam, fresh home baked apple pie.
Of picking wild cherries and making jam, picking buckets and buckets of blackberries to sell for cash, lol.
fond memories.
-
jgnat
What irritates me is that this golden picture of what never was, is being used as justification for a belief that the only families worthy of support are with a mom and a dad. This excludes single parent homes and of course gay couples as well. It's thinly veiled bigotry.
Besides, to be closer to the "Christian" model, families should be inviting grandma and grandpa in to their household. If not aunties, uncles, and indentured servants.
I recall being turned down for rental accommodation because "Single parents are partiers". Indignant, I growled in to the dead phone, "I'm not a partier! They just lost a good tenant."
-
*lost*
jgnat so true.
A man's system of control, patriachal society, patriachal religion, who exactly put them in charge
and gave them authority to rule and dictate to us how we should live our lives.
-
jgnat
Well, considering that we make up half the population, a goodly number of women went along with the plan as well. Betty Friedan speaks of this phenomenon, speaking to her college friends. These women who excelled as scholars on all sorts of subjects, were planning to be housewives; domestics. They even fooled themselves in to believing that would be enough.
-
Xanthippe
A man's system of control, patriachal society, patriachal religion, who exactly put them in charge
I think having 75% more upper body strength than the average woman helped historically, Lost.
Why women keep going along with it as Jgnat says is baffling,though.
-
*lost*
Man generally man be 'physically' 'stronger' but i would say that women are the 'stronger' sex, not the weaker, man is the weaker one,
that is why they have structured our society how they have, man tries to 'control' what he 'fears' in his inadequacies.
Women are 'stronger' mentally and emotionally.
IMO
-
jgnat
*lost*, but not physically. Cultures moving from herder or hunter-gatherer in to modern society have to make the switch from patriarchal to...let's say pluralistic. The local native community members here recall, traditionally, the head of the household (man) would eat first before the rest of the family. That's because they were dependent on the hunter to bring home the meat and prevent starvation. Starve the hunter and everyone starves.
The women - amazing, strong, capable, talented. But it was a patriarchal society.
Look at Saudi Arabia. Straight from herdsmen to oil barons. Yet they set up their households and treat their women like chattel as if they are still living in tents. Religious fastidiousness has only made this worse.
I've also read of some Romany people, traditonally itenerant travellers, who by shrewd trading are suddenly wealthy. The culture shift is tremendous. So there are opulent homes stuffed with goods, and the family spends all their time out back, with easy access to the outhouse. It might be a while before the girls wake up to their rights. http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2012/09/wealthy-roma/oneill-text
-
Hortensia
My husband thought a wife would be like his mother. I had to correct this notion.
I remember once after working all day I came home and my husband asked, "what's for dinner?" I said, "I'm having a sandwich. I don't know what you're having." He thought that was awful and said I was a terrible wife.
He kept buying avocados, would put them in a bowl on the counter. When they spoiled, he would throw them out. I watched that with interest, I didn't know why he bought the avocadoes if he wasn't going to eat them. One day as he was throwing out a bowlful of avocados, I heard him muttering, "I keep buying avocadoes but nothing ever happens to them." I asked him what he thought would happen and he said, in tones of real frustration, "I thought guacamole would happen!" After I quit laughing and picked myself up off the floor, I told him guacamole doesn't just happen, someone has to make it. Then I showed him how, and after that he made his own damn guacamole.
It was the same thing with laundry. I asked why he never folded his clothes when he got them out of the dryer. He said when he lived with his mother folded clothes just appeared in his dresser on a regular basis.