So I have a friend in a congregation in New Jersey who recently called me to tell me that he got a divorce. Nothing surprising there at first but it is the fact of when it happened.
His wife began pioneering april 1, and after about three weeks she came to him and told him that about 4 years she had engaged in loose conduct (fondling the penis and the guy kissing her breasts) during a time that she was inactive. She never went to the elders about it and after the event occured is when she decided to go back to meetings and get her life together. 2 years later she met him and they got married etc...
He said when she told him he wasn't very upset because it happened before she knew him. However the elders told her she could no onger pioneer - but then asked her if she told her husband about this before they got engaged and married. She said no. THe brothers then went on to inform him that because she had committed this act and didn't tell him before they were engaged to be married that the foundation of the marriage was false. (I was an elder for about 6 years and never heard of this happening.) He now had scriptural grounds for divorce. They let him no that in essence she lied to him and covered over a seriious sin and purposelly mislead him into believing she was "pure".
He told me that as they described it more it really helped him to see just how serious the wrong she committed was. He said the brothers told him in front of his wife to go home and think about what his decidion would be. He said that after thinking about it, how she was hiding these lies from him and the fact that another man had done these things to her - he was repulsed. He said he forced her to describe what happened with the man in detail and afterward he just could not bare to touch her...
He informed her that he was going to seek a scriptural divorce and that one of them has to move out immediately
I kid you not... this is some stupid craptacular crap