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by Miss.Fit 62 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

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  LisaRose

  That is horrible. I am so sorry this piece of dirt did that to you and your sisters. There was a story in the papers today about a woman who was molested by a family friend. By the time she came to terms with it, it was too late to bring charges. So she wrote a letter to him, telling him how much damage he had done to her, she gave it to him in person, at which time he fondled her breast and told her he would like to perform oral sex on her. She then brought charges and had him prosecuted. He is eighty years old and going to prison.

  How sad and pathetic that the FP mom did nothing about it. Not unusual among religious groups, including the dubs. Nobody wants to admit it happens, that would be embarrassing, so they just sweep it under the rug. Do a search on Candace Conti. She was molested by a dub who took her out in field service with him, then took her to his house and molested her. The elders knew he had fondled his step daughter but didn't do any thing but remove his privileges. She won a multi million dollar settlement from the Watchtower.
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  ShirleyW

  MissFit, I have a question, if FP stands for foster parents did you report the beatings and abuse to your counselor? I ask this because I guess the rules regarding foster children may be different from state to state, but I'm from NY and my father worked with foster children in more or less the role of a counselor. One thing I remember growing up though, and I'm sure you might be younger than me but, all the kids in my class that were foster always bragged that they couldn't get spankings because that wasn't allowed for foster children, but then I'm going back to the 60's and 70's. I guess that still holds true.
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  ABibleStudent

  Hi Miss.Fit,

  Have you heard of Candace Conti's child molestation lawsuit against the WTBTS? I would recommend that you and your sisters contact Candace Conti's attorney Rick Simons: Office - 510-582-1080 Ext. 19; [email protected] about you and your sisters being molested by an active JW elder . Based on what you wrote, you may have a valid lawsuit against the WTBTS and maybe even social services. I would definately say you have a case if your FP dad continued to molestate you and your sisters after he was removed as an elder and the other elders did not notify the local police.

  I'm sorry for what you and your sisters endured, but you still may be able to confront your abuser and the WTBTS.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  Miss.Fit

  @abiblestudent: yes I heard of her through your board so I googled her. That is one of the reasons I posted. It brought up a lot of memories. I had always disagreed with the way the elders handled our case. The adults surrounding us had their own agenda and we had nobody to speak for our interest. Myself FPmom did not want to face the shame, and she would not have been able to support herself he was in jail. And where would we go?

  My case is way to old to sue. I wanted to put another voice to the discussion.

  Shirleyw: this was in the late 60s early seventies. Please understand the control these people had over us. They moved us far away from everyone who knew us. They covinced us that it was for our owb good that noboby knew we were in foster care. They told us horror stories of life in an institution. They repeatedly told us how greatful we should be by all of their sacrifice. When we got a visit from social services we were terrified of being taken away.

  To everyone else: thank you for you kind words and encouragenent.

  I do not blame the organization for what happened. I spent a long time working through my issues. I can relate to a lot of the feelings I have read while I was lurking. It is a relief to know that there are others that have similar feelings.
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  ABibleStudent

  Miss.Fit - @abiblestudent: yes I heard of her through your board so I googled her. That is one of the reasons I posted. It brought up a lot of memories. I had always disagreed with the way the elders handled our case. The adults surrounding us had their own agenda and we had nobody to speak for our interest. Myself FPmom did not want to face the shame, and she would not have been able to support herself he was in jail. And where would we go?

  Hi Miss.Fit, Some states have made changes to their statue of limitations for child molestation cases because children are unable to defend themselves. I would recommend that you contact Rick Simons to determine whether there are statue of limitations for your situation.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  Robert
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  rebel8

  What a horrific experience.

  It is not too late to notify the police, if he is still alive.

  Jail and being on the child abuse registry resembles justice a lot more IMO than an unlikely lawsuit that only would hit him in the wallet. Even better, criminal penalties will help prevent future crimes.
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  SAHS

  “Miss.Fit”:

  Welcome to the Board! It goes without saying that what happened to you and your sisters is extremely disgusting, upsetting, unfair, and blatantly criminal in many ways. It should make anyone very angry and almost want to cry at the same time.

  I’m so glad, however, that you are telling the story of what went on. It is a very positive and constructive thing to share it, as you are doing. My sympathies and also congratulations for coming out.

  Two things need to occur in order to promote justice and healing:

  (1) This must be submitted to the legal justice system; firstly, as charges within the criminal justice system; and secondly, as a claim within the context of a civil lawsuit. Litigation should be at least investigated, and I would strongly suggest a comprehensive consultation with a lawyer to advise on your options and the merits thereof. Such initial consultation should be available free of charge.

  (2) Your story should be submitted to the general media, including newspaper/magazine publication as well as online news resources. This is the simplest option, and definitely should be done regardless of what may or may not transpire with a criminal case or civil suit. Publishing your story would be very beneficial, not only to you and your sisters, but also in informing the public of just what does, in fact, go on with many of these “elders,” who are supposedly appointed by “God’s organization” through holy spirit (yah, right).

  You have to realize that now you do have power, and you and your sisters never have to be that kind of victim ever again. It’s now your turn to turn the table around in your favor. I strongly wish for you the justice and closure of which you are very long overdue. Please at least consider pursuing the above two courses of action, which are the most tangible and effective routes for attaining justice, closure, and, most of all, healing, for yourself and your sisters. Best of luck!
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  laverite

  Miss Fit - I do not agree with those who use words like must, needs, should, etc. As far as your situation goes, as a victim only you are in the best place to determine what you are comfortable with and what will be good for you in dealing with what happened to you. Whatever course of action (or inaction) you decide to take deserves our full support. Sending you only the very best wishes and healing thoughts.
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  cantleave

  OMG!! Such a shocking story. I really hope you and your family can get some form of compensation.
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  Miss.Fit

  @laverite- thank you for support.

  @rebel8- this happened over 40 years ago. I am pretty sure it is way to late to do anything legally.

  I have lost contact with him . He would be in his 80s now. I know his name but that is all.

  I am not looking for compensation or want to be used to throw the JWs under the bus. people that have been abused as children know it affects the rest of their lives- who do you trust? How can you trust anything when the people you depended on- the person who taught every thing you knew turned out to be evil?

  This may not be a popular statement but I really in my heart believe that the reason I had the courage to tell someone about the abuse was because of the meetings. We were taught Jehovah hates this conduct. FP dad did not take into account that my love for Jehovah trumped my fear of him. We knew we could go to the elders. They did remove him. I must admit that the urge or instict to not bring reproach on gods name was deeply ingrained.

  About 9 months after we outed him,we ended up back with our biomom. She was reinstated and healthy. (Long story) The FPs had such a strong hold on us that we were conviced not to tell our mom. We moved in with her - she lived in another state

  Eventually my sisters and I ended back with my bio mom who was now reinstated and

  I think people need to remember that these victims are real people with real lives. Each case is different .