My grandmother passed away at 4:55am

by losingit 24 Replies latest jw friends

  • losingit
    losingit

    Imtyping this on my phone, please excuse the misspellings.

    I'm sad. She lived a long life, 90 years, and battled Alzheimer's for the last 5 years of her life. I saw her for the last time last year. She did not recognize me. I was okay with it. I just repeated to her over and over how much I love her. I fed her some of her food. My children were with me. I believe my grandmother recognized my oldest. My oldest is so kind, and warm, and beautiful. My baby was scared and wanted to leave. I agreed with her that nursing homes can be scary places for a little child, but that we are together and I am there to love them and take care of them.

    Mygrandmotherwas a fierce, shrewd woman. She eenjoyed hevacations fully. She would go with her best friend and havw. hat sounded like a raucous good time. She was also adevouCatholic. She never missed Mass. She also had alargv. egetablg. arden, and opened a community garden next doorin hevacant lot with the help of The Botanical Gardens.

    I remember giving mg. randmother a shower when ahe refused to take a shower witt. he nurse helping her.

  • nonjwspouse
    nonjwspouse

    I am sorry for your loss and will pray for peace and calmness for your family to come soon. It's wonderful to have been able to have known your grandmother for so long, and even your children to have been able to know her. Altzheimers can sometimes cause a person not to know they are in a nursing home which in lucid times they would have hated. I know many who are perpetually happy while suffering from the disease. I hope your grandmother was feeling happy during those times.

    She sounds like she left a deep, good impression on the ones she met throughout her life.

  • losingit
    losingit

    When she first entered the nursing home I visited her often, but as her memory faded I also faded from visiting. I made an extra special effort to visit her that last time. I could've gone to see her this last time I visited my parents but I hesitated. I didn't want to see her in that condition, the way my parents described it. Even my own father didn't want to go because it depressed him so much.

    Ihaven't told my children yet. But I did tell their father, my former husband. He might go up for the funeral. Funny, I called him and was crying but since he was on his way to the gym us talking privately about it would have to wait. (The kids were in the car.) Ok. I don't know why I expected special treatment.

    So, I'm headed up to my parents again. I will see family that I haven't seen in years. I'm worried because no one knows my husband and I are headed for a divorce. They will all ask for him. I would finally have to reveal that secret of mine. But I'm also looking forward to hearing funny, outrageous stories about my grandmother from everyone. She was a very independent strong headed woman. I hope I'm able to pick up some of her great qualities now that she's passed.

    Descanse en paz, Abuela. Te amo.

  • losingit
    losingit

    Thank you nonjwspouse

  • rip van winkle
    rip van winkle

    losingit, I'm very sorry for the loss of your grandmother.

    Your grandmom sounds like she was a fun and caring person.

    How wonderful that she started a community garden!

    Thank you for sharing a little bit of her life with us.

  • carla
    carla

    My sympathies.

  • AudeSapere
    AudeSapere

    I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. It's funny when we find their dominate traits in ourselves.

    Enjoy the time with your family as you prepare for her services. I hope you have some good laughs at the fun stories that you will hear.

    -Aude.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Sorry to read of your loss. It sounds like she ledxa long life and left you some great memories.

  • Iown Mylife
    Iown Mylife

    You are a special person. I hope you get to feel better soon and able to enjoy your memories of your grandma♥

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