I was a long time elder and stood by as many friends have let their loved ones die due to the stupid and ever changing "no blood" JW doctrine. I remember reciting the offencive jw babble to greiving brothers and sisters about how happy that they made jehovah because they remained STRONG!
We have friends whose grandchild was recently 'taken' by the court and "forced" to receive a blood transfusion , which everyone involved KNEW saved the child's life.The jw parents were totally relieved and sooooo very happy that their child did not die and they did not have to be his 'executioner". Our friends, the JW grand parents were also very relieved and have commented many times that the child would have died with out the transfusion. I often think how I would have TRULY reacted if one of my children would have faced such a situation. I know how I would react now if it involved any of my loved ones.
Should dubs be happy for our friends that they have a healthy living child or sad that the court "forced" blood on their child? Should dubs look at the family, that is happy, and think that they should have fought harder to prevent having blood "forced" on their child? Will this child grow up knowing that they should have died but for having a" god dishonoring" blood transfusion "forced" on them? Will they have to live with knowing that they were 'violated'? How do you tell dubs that just maybe it was jehovah's will that this child lived?
I have avery dear friend whose whole family of dubs looke on as his oldest son died of a plastic anemia when the only possibility to save him was a transfusion. This was during the 2000 "adjustment" period on the JW blood doctrine and fractions were now allowed. We discussed it later and I tried to comfort him with the typical jw crap. My friend never recovered from the death of his oldest son. years later as he drank more and more, he always brought up the topic of how his son died. This fine brother and friend shot himself. Sort of a 2 for 1 death by loyalty to the blood doctrine. Both are Jehovah's memory, according to the jw funeral/memorial talk for being obedient? Thankfully many are waking up to the danger of this organization.