Some of those people ([who] allow their past with the Witnesses to define their lives now) are needing more time to get over it.
Others are being shunned by brothers, grandmothers, their own children and/or parents.
Many never knew how to really think for themselves and others are still struggling with the idea that they themselves brought this about by turning their backs on the dangerous mind-control cult by "sinning."
A woman whose elder husband barely speaks to her, but expects JW-defined obedience, cooked meals, a clean house, and for her to lay there once or twice a week so he can get his rocks off, while at the same time has adult children that won't speak to her, maybe even keeping grandchildren from seeing her, just because she realized Watchtower's truth is a lie- I think she deserves to put it all on Watchtower.
I walk that mile in another's shoes when I can. I don't blame Watchtower for every last problem, but some are so messed up by Watchtower that it is rightly so for now.