by wafflesandpancakes 54 Replies latest social relationships
we got married at 20--in 1968----both technically virgins---honeymooned at a national assembly in sheffield UK. there was a talk / drama all about pre-marital conduct. whoops--red faces lol.
but it was generally undeerstood beforehand that anything was overlooked--except penetration.
The JW youth of today know how to hide what they are up to, and they protect eachother.
One example, I know a young JW who was hauled before a J.C as a witness, he was the only one who could say, for sure, that a certain unmarried couple had spent the night together, they had, but he told the J.C they had not. Where is the Holy Spirit when you need it, Elders ?
They tightened up the rules in about 1967/8 as has been said, so that even "Heavy Petting" as they called it, LOL, was condemned, before that just penetration was the no no, we had lots of non-penetrative fun in those days !
Oh dear, I straddled my husband and kissed him madly before we were married...no chaperone....no penetration though...but still could have been dfd! Funnily enough, before he came back to 'the truth' after being a baptised faded one, he'd lived with a woman but the elders decided not to df him when he came back to the congregation. They're a nice bunch of elders. Disfellowshipping was rare in my cong.
i do think that back in the 1960's--those who did fess up to premarital sex were usually in the family way when they did. they felt the need to face a possible d/f'ing so they could repent and get back in before the big A arrived.
i wonder if these days most young singles either think A is a long way off--if they really believe it at all. either way--with intelligent use of birth control--they can play around---and who's ever going to know--? except jehovah --of course..but he learned to keep his mouth shut too.
Jehovah dont know shit...
one friend of mine touch her bf's dong and he touches her coochie. elders treated it as pornea although they said they did not masturbate each other. then in 2006 the boe letter abt pornea was sent, and big mouthed elder told the now husband abt it, he left the borg
Jeffro - "Doesn't it make you long for Old Testament times? When the first time you have sex was the marriage. Made things so much simpler. And even ugly guys could just rape a virgin and then pay a couple of bucks."
Dude, I realize you're not serious, but that's still a pretty f**ked-up thing to say.
I would say pretty close to 80% in my circles had sex (in someform there of) before marriage. Also the 20% that didn't regreted the marriage later. It's funny the 20% tend to have the nasty divorces later on. Hump before you jump people if you can't then are you really that close to each other to begin with.
I knew a brother who cheated on his wife because.... well...she was sleeping around with other men...so I guess it was payback time for him...some years later he was appointed an MS.
Kool Jo
When I was a Elder, 80-90% of the JC meetings were sex related, young and old.
