The phone calls are easy. When you answer jus say
Pizza palace, may I take your order
They'll stop callin' if they think you changed your number
And if they're hungry and decide to order tell 'em your 25 miles away
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I'm not going back...finally
by lostinthought 23 Replies latest jw friends
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Mum
Do you live alone? Or do you have a spouse? Children? If you have other JW's in your household, it's more complicated.
If you're single and free, it might be a good idea to move to another town or another state.
At least, you can have your phone number changed - AND unlisted.
Avoidance is easier than confrontation.
If they knock on your door, go to the door with an ice pack on your head and tell them you have a migraine, and that migraines have become persistent and are crippling you at this point, and that you're not up to talking.
As others have said, you do not owe them an explanation. There is no reason to feel guilty unless you believe you're doing something wrong, and you are NOT. You do owe yourself the best life you can make.
All actions have consequences. If you're not ready for the consequences, maybe you're not quite ready to leave yet. But keep fading. There's no rush unless you're entirely fed up and can't take it anymore.
Best wishes for a happy future!
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clarity
Lost in Thought ........aaahhhhh you are getting off the treadmill are you?
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Congratulations!
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It is the best of times,... it is the worst of times ..........
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FEELing guilty is just a bit of the worst.
Remember, you have been programmed!
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That PROGRAM is still running in your head!
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The sooner you find the triggers to turn it off .............
the sooner you will have more best of times.
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Wishing you the best......
clarity
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pearlsister
Clarity, I sent you a pm !!
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fresh prince of ohio
best bet to limit elder harrassment is to change congos, if it's possible for you to pull it off.
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AnnOMaly
Another thought - this time on the guilt thing. I wonder if you are feeling guilty about letting people you like/love down (maybe even God?) and anxious about what they will think of you.
You pioneered. What's happened to those RVs or studies that may have liked you and your visits? Are they disappointed you no longer visit?
Bethel - you were helping out there. Are they down a reliable volunteer now?
Did you have privileges in the congregation? Who's taking up the slack in your absence?
Are you feeling guilty that you're causing your family worry or emotional pain?
Try to isolate what exactly it is that you feel guilty about. Then you may be able to figure out what's misplaced or appropriate, or what's merely a result of JW conditioning.
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Hortensia
Good for you! You'll feel so much better soon. It's sort of like having surgery and then recovering -- you're cutting the wtbts out of your life and it takes a bit of time to get through and over the process.
Lots of avoidance -- as folks said above. Don't answer the phone if you recognize the caller. If they use a different phone number and trick you into answering, "sorry, can't talk. I'll call you soon." Then hang up. Same at the door, "sorry, can't talk now! I'll call you soon."
Only you know "soon" means "never."
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laverite
may I add something to what OTWO said? Yes! Let it go to voice mail. But as soon as you start to play the message back DELETE it immediatley without actually listening to it. Just delete.
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Mr Fool
At least it´s a good thing that you don´t need to be forced to choose between your belief and your family.
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Xanthippe
How to ' Handel' phone calls and visits? Just sing them the Hallelujah chorus.