Welcome rod.henderson, I use to feel that the Watchtower was just a kookie religion. Now I know that it is a dangerous cult that uses BITE control to victimize JWs.
I would recommend that you read Steve Hassan's books (i.e., "Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and (his latest book) "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs"), visit his website www.freedomofmind.com, and watch his videos on his site to learn how to identify how a dangerous cult behaves.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert