Mr Fool:
There were several rude awakenings before the last straw, which was the 1995 changed teaching on generation.
I am a single working woman who was appalled by the attitude towards college/careers and just a plain old decent job. I got the sense I was resented because I am independent. Some of these fools acted as if I "owed" somebody something. Many of my critics were older people who came into the religion after they made their living and were retirees. I could swear that some of them must have forgotten what it was like to have to go out and earn a living. They said the stupidest things! And, the gossip? Let's not go there.
I made enough concessions to be in this stupid religion. I stopped smoking and conformed my lifestyle to bible standards, I dressed as modestly as I could. But, was scrutinized over my dress and figure by people with issues. Certain people there didn't like me because I was outspoken and the users got nowhere with me. I was not there to be bothered by people looking for favors.
But, still I persevered because I was ever optimistic that things would get "better". They didn't. I realized it wasn't just me or my attitude.
Then came that fateful 1995 changed teaching on generation and all my hopes and optimism went out the window and I knew it was all crap. It took me another five years though before I started my "fade". It was the best thing I ever did and I am sorry I didn't do it ten years earlier. I had very few friends and thankfully no family there, so it is NO loss.