Hey, FreePeace...
both of us were separated from our spouses, both because of alcoholism
Would you like to speculate on how much that alcoholism may have been a result of being a borgie? When I first got sober I insisted that it was all on me, that I had choices the same as everyone and I just made some bad ones. Now, looking back from 15 years' distance, I see that my drinking was a direct result of the intense emotional pressure and cognitive dissonance resulting from being a JW. I know that in a different set of circumstances it wouldn't have worked out that way. What about your and Think4's exes? Reckon?
COMF
Ah, love! could you and I with Him conspire
To grasp this sorry scheme of things entire,
Would not we shatter it to bits--and then
Re-mould it nearer to the heart's desire!