People who actually practice detachment seem to be really annoying to those who don't.

by Hortensia 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  Hortensia

  gosh, I haven't heard that song in years!

  Am I using the word detached correctly? I can't get involved in their emotion, take sides in their dramas, or make rules for other people. Yet, when they aren't in control mode, they are interesting people and quite fun to be around. Why do humans always want to make rules for other people?

  I think a lot about what community means. To me it means that we don't run our lives as if no one else counts. We accept some rules, and compromise sometimes, because it's better for the group, but we're individuals and as long as we're not harming anyone, we run our own lives. Having a group activity or goal shouldn't mean that we have to walk in lockstep formation.
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  Hortensia

  I guess I'm just ranting.
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  cofty

  I think you are very wise. It's amusing when people expect you to take sides and you are like - meh!

  If you can keep your head when ....
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  Apognophos

  I've always been pretty detached, so I laughed out loud when I read this thread title. I don't play favorites and I don't like to follow or to lead. But I've found that some people do value this trait, and sometimes they seek you out for it. In middle school I had a teacher privately ask me what really happened between two classmates, since they told different stories about a fight they were in. After telling them what I saw, the teacher told me that she knew I was objective (I forget what word she actually used) and that she would find out the truth by asking me. She said this knowing that I was friends with both of the classmates.

  So I may not make a very good friend, but in another (non-Witness) lifetime, I probably would have been a damn fine judge.
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  designs

  Aynrandioism.
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  compound complex

  Don't stab me with a fork till I'm done . . .

  I learned about detachment from attending Al-Anon meetings. No more CoCo a doormat!

  Hi, Hortensia, btw!

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  Hortensia

  Hi Coco!

  I think I would have made a good judge, too. I can see and understand many sides of an argument, and I am pretty good at seeing what is important and what isn't, what the real issues are.