When I awoke, I was an elder, arranging "service" groups and talking to people at the door, conducting a study group (we still did that), giving public talks and midweek talks.
I have a loving JW wife, mother, in-law family.
While everyone is different, I had to end the madness for myself. Granted, I had unresolved issues that made it necessary to make changes in my life. But being myself was a priority. I faded rather quickly, and retained a good relationship with my wife and mother. (My in-laws live far away and respect me, possibly say things to my wife behind my back, but it hasn't really changed.)
Your path is working for you. I just hope the best for you and want others to know they can find their own path, also.