Someone I know wants to go back to the meetings

StephaneLaliberte

I am presently fadding out and a person that I know sent me an email telling me he was going back to his meeting. How can I let him know that I think he probably will be better outside if he keeps trying without running the risk that he goes back and forward the email to a local elder?

Witness My Fury

Avoid putting anything in writing that can be used against you.

A simple link to jwfacts or a statement might be doable, but dont comment on it with your viewpoints that could then be used against you.

mynameislame

Will they have to pay attention at the meetings? If so that was one of the things that finially woke me up.

Meetings while DFed were so hard to sit through when I had nothing to do but listen to them.

Incognito

Wish him luck, oops, "good-fortune" and let him carry-on with what he plans to do.

As JW's, it was engrained in us that it's our responsibility to save everyone else. Although as humans , we wish to protect others from harm but unless the other person is open minded and will look at and accept facts when given, they will oppose whatever information is provided. That is usually OK in most circumstances but in the JW world, brain washing and blind allegence to the organization results in adherents reporting others for having views contrary to official policy. Someone that hasn't been attending and even those who live a lifestyle which is contrary to WT teachings, does not mean they no longer hold the WT as 'The Truth'.

If and when he is ready to question the validity of what is presented from the WT, he will then seek his own answers to his questions, wherever those answers may come from. As you are presently fading, you aren't recognized as taking a stand against the organization so in likelihood, he will not confide in you any doubts he may have if he has any. Just as you can't trust him to keep confidential any conversation you have with him, he also can't trust you for the same reasons.

If you do decide to share with him your reasons for questioning what you have been taught, it cannot be in writing or in a conversation that occurs with anyone else present.

Nathan Natas

Good luck on your fad.

steve2

Honestly, some people are better off returning to their old ways because they do not or cannot make a decent life for themselves away from creature comforts of their younger years. This is as true of ex-Witnesses as it is of ex-Born Agains, Mormons, Adventists or any number of folk who try to shake off old beliefs but fall down the drain pipe in the process. "Honey, you were a mess as a Witness but, gee, now that you've left, you're worse off!"

Besides, it's best you be philosophical: A flip back in merely sets him up for the eventual flop back out. Flip-floppers are not good company in the longer term, anyway.

quellycatface

Never look back.

ABibleStudent

Hi ecan6, Why did your friend stop going to meetings in the first place and what has changed? If you want to send email, ask him that question and ask him to call you or meet someplace to talk more.

Have you thought about sending your friend an anonymous email? Keep it simple, like "Hi Friend, I heard that you were thinking about going back to meetings. You should visit www.jwfacts.com to learn about all the "New Light". Someone who cares about you."

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

DesirousOfChange

Avoid putting anything in writing that can be used against you.

Anything can AND WILL be used against you.

Doc

RagingBull

Simply tell them "as long as you're sure about it and it's what you want to do. I know you've researched the organization during your time away and have heard both sides of the story, so to speak. Peace be unto you."

There will be some that escape, and for whatever reason - go back. Nothing you can do about it really. Everyone that does so, wakes up in their own time and in their own way.

Someone I know wants to go back to the meetings

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